Earlier today I was chatting with a friend of mine who asked me a question that I hear quite often. She said, “So you’ve been a coach for quite some time now, what’s the number one problem in marriages that you see?” As we started talking about it, I thought to myself that it would be interesting to write an article on the topic.
After all, the more you know about what to expect in marriage and what kinds of bumps come up down the road, the easier it will be to anticipate them and steer clear of them!
There is one specific thing that I would say is the #1 problem in marriages and relationships, and I will be going over it with you in today’s article but the best part is that I will be providing you with some solutions for it, too!
So even if this problem might be the most common one out there, it doesn’t mean that it has to ruin your relationship. If you’re prepared to be proactive and implement the solutions available to you, you won’t even have to worry about this issue. Knowledge is your biggest ally, so let’s dive in!
Interestingly enough, many people think that the biggest problem in marriages is money. Sure, finances can be an issue in a lot of relationships (and especially when two people get married), but the number 1 problem in marriages is actually communication.
I see so many individuals and couples making the mistake of assuming that their significant other can just read minds. Then they get upset when their partner does something that they wouldn’t want them to do, but in reality, their partner didn’t realize that it would have such a negative reaction.
Another common issue is that people think that they shouldn’t have to tell their partner how they feel because their pattern should “just know.” As you can imagine, this creates a wide range of problems that can really undermine a marriage.
Knowing how to properly communicate can help you to anticipate problems and avoid them, diffuse tensions that have arisen and what’s more, it can help you to work together as a team towards common goals.
I know that sometimes it’s hard to communicate, especially if you haven’t received a proper education in terms of how to do this but I am here to tell you that these skills can be learned.
We have an entire article dedicated to a couple’s communication exercises that I encourage you to read. You can read all about how to improve communication between you and the one you love simply by clicking the link.Related >
Communication is the biggest problem in relationships and marriages because when there is a lack of clarity between two people, it creates room for misunderstandings. When there are misunderstandings and you are unable to communicate about it, things can go downhill quite fast.
So what happens? Arguments can develop and the more time happens, the more resentment can build up. This can lead to changes in your values and a lack of communication and empathy around these changes.
So what’s the solution? The first part of the solution is to be diligent about practicing empathy. The more you can put yourself in your partner’s shoes, the easier it will be to see where they’re coming from and communicate in a more productive way.
It’s easy to make the mistake of sticking to your guns and focus on trying to get your point across instead of really making an effort to understand your partner. If you can understand each other, then you can work more as a team which will strengthen your relationship.
Another thing to keep in mind is the importance of creating an environment in which you and your partner both feel comfortable communicating. I often see people inadvertently making their partner feel like they can’t speak their piece because they’ll automatically get shot down.
An easy way to fix this is to pay attention to the way you talk to your spouse. Instead of adopting an accusatory tone, practice mirroring and verbally letting your spouse know that you’ve understood what he or she is saying to you. For more in-depth information on how to do this, I encourage you to read our article on how to fix a lack of communication in a relationship.
If you would like one on one guidance on how to protect your marriage and learn proper communication techniques that will give you longterm results, I recommend getting in touch with me or a member of my team by simply clicking here. Together we can create a tailor-made action plan that will reinforce your bond with the one you love once and for all. To work with us, just click here.
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