When it comes to identifying the signs of a good relationship, the biggest one is how you feel within your relationship. If you feel like you are free to be yourself, if you feel safe to express your needs and opinions, if you feel that there is an atmosphere that makes you feel completely at ease, things are looking very good! One of the most common problems I see in relationships and marriages is that a person has trouble being themselves – either because they are struggling with problems related to a lack of self confidence, or because their partner does not make it possible for them to feel fully at ease.
This goes hand in hand with communication. In a good relationship, there is an open channel of communication. Both parties feel safe to express themselves and they know that they will be heard. If communication is an issue in your relationship, I highly recommend reading this article that teaches you some of the most powerful tools for improving communication between you.
It can take some time to establish healthy and fluid communication in a marriage, especially when someone didn’t learn it while they were growing up. But you two are a team and you can work together to create an exchange that benefits your relationship.
Another sign of a good relationship to keep in mind is how inspired you feel to become the best version of yourself. There are relationships in which people thrive, and there are relationships in which people feel that they need to mute themselves. If you are looking for the signs of a good relationship, then I encourage you to ask yourself the following question:
Do I feel supported in my goals and dreams, and I encouraged to reach my full potential, and do I feel that my partner is my #1 fan?
Or, does it feel like no matter what I do, it’s never enough for my partner? Does it feel like my partner is always making my feel like I am not good enough?
It’s a fine line, but there is a huge difference between these two dynamics. In the first, you have a partner who lifts you up and cheers you on in a way that makes it easy for you to reach your full potential. And in the second, you have a partner who has a destructive approach to the relationship.