It’s really common to hear about signs of a bad marriage marriage, or signs that your marriage is about to fall apart, but it’s interesting how people don’t talk as much about signs of a good marriage! It is just as important to know the signs of a good marriage as it is to know the signs of a bad marriage, don’t you think? Well, I know you do, because you have sought out this article.
I wanted to dedicate some time today to writing about what constitutes a good marriage. It is always helpful to know when you are on the right track, and there are some big indicators that can help you to ensure that you are. We have dedicated our lives to teaching people how to coach themselves at home through any obstacles that presents itself in their love lives, and part of that entails teaching people how to recognize when they’ve got something good.
All too often, I see people giving up on a relationship simply because it isn’t like the relationship they had before, and this is one of the many things I want to talk about today! So, let’s get started.
The importance of seeing the signs of a good marriage
I was recently working with a client, Alessandra, who had come to me for advice about her current relationship. She had been dating a guy for about 7 months and she was worried about the way that she was feeling. I remember her saying that “things have been going really well, but somehow I’m not sure if this is the right relationship for me.
It’s like it’s all good on paper, but I’m not sure about what I’m feeling. It’s like I am not feeling as many emotions about it as I would like to be feeling.”
And this is a common issue, so I decided to go deeper into it and ask her about her previous relationship. As we began talking about it, she revealed to me that she had a pretty toxic relationship in the past. When a person is in a toxic relationship, there is a very interesting phenomenon that takes place and it is also the reason that so many people struggle with exiting a toxic relationship.
In toxic relationships, there are very high highs and very low lows, and it becomes very easy to start subconsciously chasing those highs. The problem is that these highs usually come when two people make up after a fight or a tense period. So what happens? The toxicity manifests itself in the creation of problems, so that you can experience the emotional surge associated with the resolution.
These highs can become incredibly addictive and can account for how difficult it is for people to say goodbye to a toxic partner. When they do, there is another common phenomenon that takes place…
In the person’s next relationship, if there is more stability and less of these emotional surges, they can begin to wonder if they’re truly happy. Unfortunately, this is part of the aftermath of a toxic relationship and is very common. The good news is that you can retrain your mindset to focus more on the true dynamics of a healthy relationship, and learn to recognize them. So, if you are reading this article right now, you are already on the right track!
Signs of a healthy marriage: Everything to keep in mind
When it comes to identifying the signs of a good relationship, the biggest one is how you feel within your relationship. If you feel like you are free to be yourself, if you feel safe to express your needs and opinions, if you feel that there is an atmosphere that makes you feel completely at ease, things are looking very good! One of the most common problems I see in relationships and marriages is that a person has trouble being themselves – either because they are struggling with problems related to a lack of self confidence, or because their partner does not make it possible for them to feel fully at ease.
This goes hand in hand with communication. In a good relationship, there is an open channel of communication. Both parties feel safe to express themselves and they know that they will be heard. If communication is an issue in your relationship, I highly recommend reading this article that teaches you some of the most powerful tools for improving communication between you.
It can take some time to establish healthy and fluid communication in a marriage, especially when someone didn’t learn it while they were growing up. But you two are a team and you can work together to create an exchange that benefits your relationship.
Another sign of a good relationship to keep in mind is how inspired you feel to become the best version of yourself. There are relationships in which people thrive, and there are relationships in which people feel that they need to mute themselves. If you are looking for the signs of a good relationship, then I encourage you to ask yourself the following question:
Do I feel supported in my goals and dreams, and I encouraged to reach my full potential, and do I feel that my partner is my #1 fan?
Or, does it feel like no matter what I do, it’s never enough for my partner? Does it feel like my partner is always making my feel like I am not good enough?
It’s a fine line, but there is a huge difference between these two dynamics. In the first, you have a partner who lifts you up and cheers you on in a way that makes it easy for you to reach your full potential. And in the second, you have a partner who has a destructive approach to the relationship.
What does a healthy marriage look like: Positivity
One of the biggest indicators that you have a good relationship or marriage is simply when you associate it with positivity. If you think about it and you feel happy, fulfilled, and even inspired, then your relationship is doing really well. If you think about it, and your relationship feels like a chore to you, it means that there is some work to be done. If as you are reading this article, you are realizing that you are not happy in this relationship, then I suggest reading this article to how to save your relationship. In it, you will learn all the tools that will not only help you to fix the cracks, but they will also help you to set yourself up for long-term success and happiness.
If you are reading this and you know that your relationship is your happy place, that you feel seen, heard, understood, and cherished by your partner, that you know that you can count on each other and that both of your wants and needs are being met, you have a good relationship! Similarly, if your relationship provides you with an environment in which you feel that you can thrive, be the best that you can be, and feel cherished for it, you have a fantastic relationship.
Now, I don’t want you to think that all good relationships are solely sunshine and rainbows. There are disagreements in even the happiest of relationships. It’s perfectly normal, and it’s just a regular part of communication. The key is to learn to have productive conversations when you do not share the same opinion about something, or when tensions arise.
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If your marriage isn’t happy right now, you can change this!
I know that some of you reading this right now might be doing so because your relationship is experiencing a rough patch, but I don’t want you to panic. Every relationship is unique and there are so many things that you can do to find resolution. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or a member of my team by clicking here, and we can ask you targeted questions and define a tailor-made action plan that is specific to your situation.
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