I know that this is a difficult subject, and it requires that you ask yourself a lot of tough questions. But by doing the work, you will be able to set yourself up for happiness. You will also be able to set your family up for happiness.
Now that you’ve spent some time analyzing your priorities, there are two options. Your job is to identify where your priorities lie, and you also need to ask yourself if staying in your relationship is the right idea. If your partner wants to be a big priority in your life but deep down, you know that it isn’t going to be possible, and you know that fundamentally, your job will always come first, then it is your duty to be honest with yourself and honest with your partner. Many people that I work with who realize that their job is their top priority try to protect their partner from this truth simply because they don’t want to hurt their partner, but the reality is that by keeping the truth from them, they are also preventing their partner from finding true happiness in their lives. It is important to be transparent with your partner and to give him or her all the information, so that they can make informed decisions.
At the very least, your partner needs to be aware of what they can expect from you and what you can deliver in this relationship. Having an honest conversation about this will help both of you to manage your expectations.
Now, for many of you who are reading this, you will be realizing that your partner truly does come before your job. So, what do you do now? Well, now is the time to set boundaries with your work. The truth, and you know this, is that work will never set boundaries on you. It is entirely on you to decide how much time you dedicate to it, when you’re working, and when you aren’t. There is always more work that can be done, but you have to set boundaries so that your significant other can feel more important in your life. You have to actively nourish your relationship.
What does setting boundaries look like? For example, you can decide to not work on Sundays, or not check emails on a Saturday. Or not be checking documents on your phone when you’re supposed to be spending time with your partner or your children. You can do things like leaving your work phone in a drawer when you come home from the office. It’s all about being present and making the effort. You can also schedule date nights in your calendar that cannot be canceled for work-related reasons. Your partner needs to know that she or he can rely on you showing up for this relationship. A healthy relationship cannot be maintained by one person alone. It’s a team effort.
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Remember, the most important thing is being clear with yourself about where your priorities lie. Once you do this, you can discuss it with your partner and work as a team to find the solutions that benefit your relationship the most.
I sincerely wish you the best in life and love,
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