When two people have been together for a long time, it’s not uncommon for the spark to start to dwindle a bit. Things start to feel less exciting, and bit more monotonous and predictable. While a sense of stability is very important, a lot of people underestimate the importance of maintaining the romance in the relationship. Many of the people I work with in my one on one coaching sessions realize that they’ve gotten lazy in the relationship and their significant other is beginning to drift away. This is not something that we want to happen!
Since this is such a common topic, I wanted to dedicate some time to writing an article about it for those of you at home. There are so many romantic things to do for your wife that you can begin introducing into your lives starting today!
It is true that relationships require maintenance, but it can be fun if you approach it with the right mindset! We want your relationship to feel inspiring and fun, so that the bond between you and your wife keeps getting stronger. We all desire a sense of freshness and excitement, so don’t let things start to feel stagnant in your marriage.
The importance of doing romantic things for your wife even if you’ve been together a while
I was working with a client yesterday that had come to me for help with rekindling the flame in his relationship because his wife was actually talking about divorce.
She felt that the relationship had lost its allure but more importantly, that she was being taken for granted. she felt that her husband, Richard, wasn’t going out of his way to do romantic things for her and that he wasn’t doing anything to make her feel special to him.
She had told him that it felt like they were living parallel lives under the same roof, and that all the romance was gone. She had actually started to spend a lot of time with her colleague, and Richard was panicking that he was about to lose his wife forever if he couldn’t get his act together.
As you can see, it’s so important to do romantic things for your significant other so that they don’t feel neglected. The more a person feels neglected, the easier it is for them to start to seek attention outside of the relationship.
Now I am not telling you this to scare you, and I’m not saying that your wife is definitely going to leave you for someone else if you don’t do romantic things for her, but romantic gestures are going to help the relationship in a couple different ways:
⁃ They will make your wife feel appreciated
⁃ They will make her feel desired
⁃ They will maintain a sense of mystery and surprise
⁃ They will rebuild the connection between you
⁃ They’ll make her want to spend more time with you
⁃ And they’ll help you to feel more confident in what you bring her as well
I am now working on restoring the romance in his relationship with Richard, and I will be going over many of the same things with him that I will be going over with you in this article.
I don’t want you to panic at think that it’s too late to make changes and that you’re losing your wife! There are plenty of cute things that you can do for her that will bring your relationship back to its former glory.
You’re already on the right path because you have gone out of your way to search for solutions to this problem. You aren’t going to sit back and let your relationship turn into a boring routine! So hats off to you because you are one step closer to making changes that will benefit your relationship for years and years.
So without further ado, let’s take a look at the most romantic things to do for your wife!
7 romantic things to do for your wife to reignite the spark!
The good news is that this is not uncharted territory. You already know how to be romantic with your wife because you’ve already done it before. You were able to do things in the past that made her fall for you, so why wouldn’t you be able to do it again?
A lot of guys panic because they realize that there’s a problem and they don’t know where to start in order to fix things, but in most cases you just need to take a look at the romantic things you were doing at the beginning of your relationship, and start to reintroduce those things.
That said, it’s always important to maintain an element of freshness, so you’ve got to be innovative as well.
Let’s take a look at some romantic ideas that you can begin to implement in your daily life starting today!
Finding romantic things to do by listening to her
You have front row seats to your wife’s wants and desires, so use this to your advantage! Make sure that you are actively listening to what makes her tick.
What kind of things does she respond well to, and what kinds of things does she dislike?
Think about the things that you know she likes but maybe doesn’t have the time or budget for. You can surprise her with a little gift. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture! it just needs to be thoughtful in order for it to be romantic. If she has a favorite pastry from a bakery that’s across town and she never has the time to get to, go pick some up and bring it home for her as a surprise. Get her a gift certificate for a spa day, carve some time out in your schedule to take her to her favorite beach.
Surprise her when you want to do something romantic
One of the most romantic gifts you could give your wife has nothing to do with purchases.
All you have to do is think about how you can surprise her and do something that she doesn’t expect. Following in line with my previous point, you know your wife probably better than anybody, so you know exactly how to surprise her!
You could even plan a weekend getaway for just the two of you so that you can reconnect and experience something new together.
Romantic gestures: Create romantic memories
We want the moments you spend together with your wife to stand out in her mind. If you can create romantic memories, the relationship is going to start to feel more and more romantic.
Prepare something in advance, so that she can see that you went out of your way to prepare this and bring it to life for her. These romantic activities can take any form – just think about what you know she’ll enjoy and appreciate. Plan a dinner for her and serve it on a picnic blanket in your backyard. Take her on a date and don’t tell her where you’re going, until you arrive to a hotel room you booked for the night for a romantic evening. Just think about how you can make romantic memories and you’ll have all kinds of romantic ideas for her.
Physical touch when you want to be romantic
Again, we have a terrible habit of falling into routines and often not realizing that we stopped making an effort to make the person we love feel loved and desired.
That is why one of the most romantic things you can do for your significant other is to be aware of how much contact there is between you. Make sure that you hug her, kiss her, and caress her on a regular basis. This doesn’t even have to be sexual – don’t underestimate the power of light touching and caressing her body for a period of time.
Physical touch is one of the best ways to feel connected to your partner, and it’s not unusual for this element of the relationship to be neglected as time wears on!
Be spontaneous when you want to be romantic with her
As I was saying, excitement and surprise are some of the main elements of relationships that continue to feel fresh throughout the years.
The best way to surprise your wife is to surprise yourself! I encourage you to go out and try new things so that you have more to share with her!
Excitement comes from spontaneity, so get out there and try some new things that you’ve never thought to do before. It could be kayaking, cooking classes, maybe even learning a new instrument, and invite your wife to join you!
Avoid selfishness when you want to do something romantic for her
This probably comes as a no brainer, but it’s important to avoid being selfish when it comes to doing things that are romantic for your wife.
So let’s say that she loves chick flicks and you don’t, but why not invite her out to dinner and to see the latest chick flick that has just come out that she’s been wanting to see? If she sees that you’re making a selfless effort to spend time with her and do something that you know makes her happy, it will feel romantic and she will appreciate it.
Speak your wife’s love language if you really want to be romantic
If you are unfamiliar with the five languages, they consist of
• Receiving/giving gifts
• Quality time
• Words of affirmation
• Acts of service (devotion)
• Physical touch
If your wife’s love language is physical touch, make sure that you go out of your way to communicate your love to her in this way. Be very aware of her romantic needs so that you can make sure that you two feel connected, and that she feels understood.
Don’t let her feel that her needs are not being met, or you might feel her start to drift away.
There are so many things you can do for your girlfriend or your wife; you just need to be aware of her wants, desires, and how you can surprise her. This will require communication and openness.
If you feel like you’re stuck and you don’t know how to come up with romantic things to do for your girlfriend or wife all you have to do is get in touch with me or a member of my team for one on one guidance.
Romantic things to do for the person you love should be a regular part of your life
Romantic things to do for your significant other should not be thought of as “solutions to problems.” Romantic gestures serve a much greater purpose and should always be a priority!
By making your wife feel loved, you will strengthen your bond and make the relationship thrive. The stronger the bond between the two of you, the easier it will be to overcome issues that arise down the line. Every single relationship will encounter highs and lows, so you want to make sure that the bond between you is solid.
So to summarize, when you want to do something romantic for your wife,
• Listen to her. Know what makes her tick!
• Surprise her. Do small things that she wouldn’t expect !
• Create romantic memories. Prepare something in advance and then lose yourselves in the moment!
• Physical touch. Hugs, massages, light touching, caress her!
• Be spontaneous. Excitement comes from spontaneity and things unplanned!
• Be selfless. Do the things she likes!
• Speak her love language!
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Wishing you all the very best in life and love,
Your coach when you want to know the best romantic things to do for your wife