It’s true, we are all very motivated by rewards! So why not do a little something for yourself and give yourself a lifestyle reward at the end of each work week. For example, a date night with the person you love, maybe a massage alone or together, or even a hike. Think about the people and things you love, and dedicate time to them in your schedule at the end of the week so that you have something to look forward to AND a reward to receive. Reward yourself by living!
We aren’t meant to work ourselves down to the bone. This life is too beautiful to not take advantage of all the wonderful people and places around us, so I really encourage you to make time for your personal life and don’t let work get in the way.
Now this doesn’t mean that you should neglect your work; it just means that you need to focus on finding balance.
Another thing that I ask my clients to do is to check in with their loved ones and find out what activities or events they’d like to be a part of. Include them in your schedule before work piles up because at the end of the day, it’s a lot easier to slip work into life, than to slip life into work.
How to balance life and work when your partner is a workaholic
I wanted to talk about Sandy a little more, because I mentioned that both partners can play a role in striking a better work and life balance.
When your significant other is constantly working and you feel that he or she is absent from important moments or even day to day life, it can take a serious toll on your relationship.
So if your partner works too much, the first thing to keep an eye on is your approach to the situation. Let’s say that they’re always at the office and they regularly miss your son’s soccer games. As frustrating as it might be, instead of reprimanding your partner each time they miss a game, try positive reinforcement each time they are able to show up for a game. Again, we are motivated by reward, so which of these two approaches would make your partner want to make more of an effort to show up to the next game?
“Typical. I don’t even know why we invite you to these games anymore, it’s not like you ever show up.”
“Did you see the look on our son’s face today? He was so proud and so happy to see you! I’m so glad you could make it today.”
The more positive reinforcement a person receives, the more inclined they will be to repeat the behavior that results in a reward for them. It’s just simple human nature!
It’s important to cheer your partner on and that you build them up instead of break them down. People are motivated by pleasure; not by punishment. This will also make it easier to re-attract their attention.
Think about non-verbal communication as well. Don’t stand with your arms crossed or your back to your partner. You can create intimacy without words by making an effort to be more tactile, to make more eye contact, and by creating an inviting environment. In addition to this, make sure that you’re taking care of yourself and that you too are living a balanced life! In fact, we’ve just created a product specifically designed to teach you how to boost the attraction between you and the one you love. To find out more, all you have to do is click here!
Give your partner space and freedom as well, because if they’re feeling pressure from work, they don’t want to feel pressure from their personal life as well. Their home should be a positive environment to where they should WANT to return and spend more time!