When your husband is having a midlife crisis, everything is upside down. Because your husband is dealing with so much right now, one of the absolute best things you can do is focus on making improvements in your own life. Confidence and wellbeing is very attractive and it can inspire your husband to want to get closer to you AND do the same thing. You can lead by example by taking the reigns and finding peace and wellbeing in your personal life, your professional life, and the way you spend your time. When your husband is going through a midlife crisis, he is going to be feeling lost. He needs a sense of stability and you can provide that in your relationship by cultivating a solid foundation in your own life.
You can also subconsciously support your husband through your body language. Sometimes supporting someone is way more subtle than we might realize. Match your husband’s body language and mirror his breathing patterns. I know that this might sound funny to you as you’re reading it, but eye contact and positive body language is a way to form non-verbal intimacy. It is a huge part of attraction, and if you want to learn more about this, I highly encourage you to download our new program on boosting the attraction in your relationship.
To stimulate intimacy and closeness between you and your husband, it’s also important to take care of yourself physically so that you feel comfortable and confident. This can be in the form of physical exercise that makes you feel energetic and healthy, or doing nice things for yourself that make you feel beautiful. You can have fun with new lingerie or anything that you find exciting!
Another thing that men love is surprise. You know your husband better than anyone, so you also know what would surprise him! Try to think of activities that you can share together that would bring a sense of freshness to the relationship. So on a weekend getaway together. Do an activity that you’ve never done before like salsa dancing classes. Now is the perfect time to come up with new things to share that make your relationship feel new.
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I also want to bring your attention to the importance of giving your husband time and space while he’s going through a midlife crisis. Men value freedom and independence, and a during a trying time like this, you might notice that he needs a bit more time on his own. When this happens, it is ideal for you to switch your focus to yourself and become the best version of yourself. This is important for your own sense of wellbeing, and it will also help your husband to gravitate back towards you. If, on the other hand, you inadvertently suffocate him and seek reassurance from him regarding the relationship, he’s going to pull away. As frustrating as it is, this is human nature. If you want him to want to be closer to you, then he needs to see that you are woman that he fell head over heels in love with. If you can become the new and improved version of that woman, then he will be drawn to you like a moth to a flame.