How to be a romantic wife? At the beginning of a relationship it’s very easy to keep things fun and exciting between you and your significant other, but as time wears on, it’s not uncommon for relationships to start to become a little bit monotonous and predictable.
The problem with this of course is that the flame starts to dwindle and it can actually push two people apart. The romance dies out and with it goes the exciting connection that you two shared.
So it’s very important to preserve the romance in your relationship with your husband or boyfriend, and if you want to know how to do that, you’ve come to the right place! Even if you feel that the romance has already fizzled out, I don’t want you to worry.
There are so many things that you can do to bring the romance back into your relationship and make your bond stronger than ever before!
Without further ado, let’s take a look at how to be a romantic wife and how to keep that spark burning bright between you and the man you love!
In a relationship, two people are meant to feel comfortable and safe with one another, but that does not mean that those feelings of security should become synonymous with boredom and monotony.
The moment a person starts to feel taken for granted in a relationship, they will start to drift away from their partner and this is why it’s so important to maintain a sense of romance and excitement in the marriage.
It is all too easy to make the mistake of assuming that you no longer need to woo your partner because you’ve already established a committed relationship with them, but that’s not the way to go if you really want this relationship to thrive.
The most successful relationships consist of two people that don’t place seduction and attraction on the back burner, but prioritize attraction and continue to woo one another.
Many of the people I work with in coaching sessions became lazy in their relationships without realizing it, and they wind up having to work extra hard to attract their partner back after they drifted very far away.
It’s great that you’ve already gone out of your way to look for some romance tips online because it means that you’re wiling to be proactive. I see so many people who just get too comfortable and without realizing it, they allow their relationship to disintegrate.
Like anything of value, relationships require maintenance and if important elements get neglected, the relationship will most certainly suffer. Now I’m not telling you all this to make you panic, but I do want to stress the importance of maintaining romance!
So how exactly does one become a romantic wife?
You know, we are living in a society that doesn’t really teach us the importance of working to maintain romance in longterm relationships. We grow up in a Hollywood and Disney movie culture that pretty much teaches us that there’s an exciting seduction stage that leads up to two people getting together, but then what happens after that?
I’ve seen so many cases in which two people just assumed that their relationship would just always stay fun, romantic and exciting just because it was that way in the beginning. Then they’re faced with the bitter disappointment when they realize that the relationship will start to suffer because they stopped putting work into it.
Now that said, it doesn’t mean that the maintenance of romance should be a burden! It is actually something that should be really fun and gratifying and if anything, a labor of love.
You might think that because you’ve been together for so long, that there’s no way that you could ever surprise your significant other, but there’s a very different way to look at this. You know your partner better than anyone so you’re actually in the perfect position to surprise him. You know what he expects, what he likes, and what he wants… so why not take advantage of that?
The more you can surprise him, the more exciting things become. We want him to really feel that there’s still so much to discover and there are still so many new things to share, and by surprising him, you can reintroduce that element of excitement and discovery that existed in the beginning of the relationship.
Think about it this way: When you’re reading a book, you’ll close it and put it down when you’ve read it all. So we don’t want him to think of you and the relationship as something that he has read through and through; we want him to have that feeling of, “I can’t wait to pick up that book and read more!”
So, how can you surprise him? Well, a great way to do this is to take the reigns and plan things to do together. For example, you could plan to have a date night with him, so that he sets the time aside, but don’t tell him where you’re going. Then you can take him to do something that he’s been wanting to do, or take him to do something he wouldn’t expect at all. Some ideas would be camping, sailing, to get a custom suit made, or even to a hotel room that you booked for the night. The more you can surprise him, the more excited he will be, and the more excited he will be, the more physical intimacy there will be between you.
How to keep a relationship interesting and make it withstand the test of time!
It goes without saying that when you’re looking at how to be a romantic wife, an important element to keep in mind is that men place high value on their sense of independence and if they feel that they’re being forced to give it up, they will pull away. On the flip side however, if they feel that you’re doing things to enrich your life and you don’t need them, they’ll be even more attracted to you and this is something that plays into romance.
The more a man desires you and is attracted to the way you’re operating, the easier it will be to inject romance into the time you’re spending together. So it’s very important to allow your man to do things independently, even if it means that your “date night” consists of hanging out next to him on the couch while he plays video games.
In fact, this reminds me of a conversation I had with a client just yesterday. David was telling me that his relationship was suffering because whenever he would go away for work, his girlfriend would tell him that she was just waiting for him to come home because she was so bored without him. He explained that it was actually quite off-putting that she didn’t have her own things going on and was depending on him to have interesting things going on in her life. The point here is that men love independence, both for themselves AND for their partners. In David’s case, whenever his girlfriend had her own things going on and had lots to share and talk about when he got home, and wasn’t waiting around for him, he found her that much more attractive and the romance naturally followed.
When it comes to preserving and creating romance in a relationship, it’s important to be able to relate to your partner and empathize with what he’s feeling. Being in tune with his needs will help you to incorporate romance into the relationship when you know the moment is right.
If there are ever tensions that arise, make sure that you solve small issues quickly and accept any fundamental differences between you that are not going to change. This relieves pressures on the relationship and makes it easier for romance to be present.
And when you feel tensions, remember the big picture. Think about why you two are together and what you are building.
It goes without saying that physical intimacy is a huge part of romance. It’s always important to make time for intimacy and romance. Like I said above, you can even book a hotel room to freshen things up. You want things to keep feeling new and fun, so don’t hesitate to try new things, new positions, new toys, new places…
This is another place where you can surprise your husband or your boyfriend. You can even get a lingerie catalogue and leave it out for him with a note that says, “Pick one and you’ll see me in it this weekend 😉 ”
If you can regularly reinvent your relationship, you will consolidate your bond. Make a conscious effort to break the routine. Explore both of your sexual fantasies, do things that you normally don’t do, and be adventurous with one another!
Gifts are always nice, but they don’t create special memories as well as experiences do. For example think about it this way, would you rather receive a new pair of shoes from your partner, or a romantic weekend getaway in a neighboring city?
So when you’re thinking of gifts or gestures, think of things that create memories instead of material things. This adds sentimental value and your partner will enjoy them for a longer period of time.
Think about adrenaline inducing moments that you can share because it adrenaline can actually serve as something that creates a deeper bond AND increases sexual desire between partners. You could go to an amusement park and ride rollercoasters or go out dancing together, and just have fun!
You can also have experiences at home. These things don’t always have to be wild and adventurous. Even simple things like binge watching a new show one day can strengthen your bond because it gives you an amazing opportunity to cuddle literally all day long.
At the end of the day, it all boils down to innovation. Romance goes hand in hand with freshness and excitement, so it’s all about creating moments that strengthen the bond between you.
Make sure to keep your eye on the big picture and this will help to dissolve tensions, and the happier you two are in your relationship, the easier it will be to incorporate romance. Think about the element of surprise and freshness, stepping outside of your comfort zone, making memories, and prioritizing surprise!
You can constantly reinvent your relationship and make sure you allow your partner to do things independently, have fun when you’re together, make time for physical intimacy and don’t be afraid to try new things. Make sure you are doing things that make you happy because this increases his attraction to you as well, and it keeps things feeling fresh!
For more individualized help, please dont hesitate to reach out to me or a member of my team by clicking here. As a team of dedicated love and relationship coaches, we can work with you to define the best way to help you to become an even more romantic wife by asking you targeted questions about your relationship. We have also designed a special product to teach you how to increase your partner’s attraction for you! To access it, all you have to do is click here.
I sincerely wish you all the best in life and love!
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