Quite a few people have reached out to me recently asking if the age difference is a problem in a relationship. I know that it can be a bit taboo for some people, especially when there is a considerable age gap between two people who are in a relationship.
I figured that if this topic is relevant to people that reach out to us, then there must be more of you out there who are wondering about the same things and the topic warrants its very own article.
If you’ve been wondering, “Is age difference a problem in a relationship and is it going to make it hard for us to last,” then I want to say this. I have been working as a love and relationship coach for very many years now and I can confidently tell you that a difference in age is not an issue in a relationship where there is love, respect, and happiness.
I wanted to go over this in detail in today’s article and I can tell you right off the bat that as long as your relationship is legal (!), age is just a number. There are, however, certain elements at play in relationships where there is a big age gap, but it is possible to navigate through these.
So let’s take a look at why age difference is not an issue in a happy relationship and what you can do to make sure that your relationship stays strong!
Is age an issue ? The answer
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So, as I began saying in the introduction, a lot of clients have recently reached out to me asking about their relationships with their significant others who are either considerably older or considerably younger than they are. One client, in particular, Robert, asked me if the advice that he was reading on our website applied to his situation as well. He is dating someone fifteen years younger than him and he was wondering about whether our philosophy and tools would apply to him or if he was an exception given the nature of his relationship.
As I told him, the answer was YES, our advice is applicable to relationships with a large age gap as well! If you are in a relationship with a person that you love, a person that inspires you, and a person you want to make happy, then our advice is relevant to you.
The thing I want to bring your attention to has more to do with a common issue that I see when there is an age gap in the relationship. I often see that people are worried about other people passing judgment, or they focus on seeking approval from their peers and family members.
When this happens, it becomes considerably harder to establish a truly fulfilling relationship and it’s such a shame because it doesn’t have to be like this!
We always tell our clients that it’s not about what other people might think of your relationship, it’s about focusing on what you can control. People will always have an opinion about the things you do, so why not focus on what brings you the most joy regardless of their opinions.
Don’t let your fears and your emotions drive your decisions and your actions. Focus more on your sense of wellbeing and how you can continue to cultivate it.
Is age difference a problem in relationships: No, but THIS is
Another common issue that I’ve noticed in relationships where one person is much older/younger than the other is that they might try to change themselves so that they feel more “suitable” for their partner. In other cases, I’ve also noticed that there are cases in which a person’s partner is much younger and doesn’t have the emotional maturity to value the relationship in the same way. They might also have expectations that are not reasonable or realistic, so make sure that you are never lowering your standards just to try to make your partner fit the bill. This is something I encourage you to be careful with.
So what it really boils down to is being able to stay true to who you are, your values, your virtues, and actively work on being the best version of yourself. This is the foundation of our philosophy and it is the basis of every happy and healthy relationship. Age doesn’t matter in a relationship as long as you’re able to stay true to who you are. So don’t focus on what other people say or what they tell you to do. We are here to help you every step of the way so if you’re looking for more tailor-made advice to help you make your relationship with the one you love stronger than ever before, don’t hesitate to reach out to us by clicking here. Transform your relationship in a meaningful and dignified way by joining the Happily Committed Project.
We are here to provide you with the support you need if you’re feeling unsure or vulnerable, and we can show you how to adopt the mindset that will strengthen your relationship. It’s all about being happy and becoming the best version of yourself so that your relationship with your significant other can truly thrive.
I sincerely wish you all the best in life and love,
Your coach when you’re wondering, “Is age difference a problem in a relationship?”