Many times when I’m working with someone in this position, they panic about the prospect of losing their husband so they inadvertently suffocate him. They cling to him and become needy for love and reassurance, but this can quickly prove to be too much for a guy.
Men place a high value on their freedom and independence so when that starts to feel threatened, you will see them start to pull away. That said, they also find independence to be very, very sexy so I encourage you to make a conscious effort to be independent!
Give him space and like I just mentioned, give him the opportunity to miss you. It’s all too easy to take your partner for granted and get bored of the situation if you’re spending every waking moment together. So instead, fill up your schedule and let him have his alone time as well. It will make the time you spend together so much more gratifying.
Nonverbal communication when keeping your husband attracted to you
People often underestimate the power of intimacy without words. The art of attraction and seduction is actually quite subtle and a lot can be communicated through the right touch or the right body language.
This is why I encourage my clients to always be positive and match their partner’s body language. Don’t mime him, but subtly match the placement of his body when you’re talking, look him directly in the eye, and send him nonverbal messages through the way you touch him – even when it’s just placing your hand on the small of his back when you’re walking side by side!
I don’t mean that you have to do things that are blatantly sexual. Just complement all the things that I went over above with nonverbal messages that communicate closeness and connection.
This means that even if you’re just watching TV on the couch together, put your legs in his lap or put your head on his shoulder.
I see signs my husband’s not attracted to me: Seduction
When two people are together for a long time it’s not uncommon for sex to start to take up less space in the relationship which can lead to a person feeling undesired by his or her partner.
I encourage you to always take care of yourself physically so that you feel and look your best, and think of ways to freshen things up. For example, buy new lingerie to surprise him with! Book a hotel room for a night for a romantic getaway from your day-to-day lives, start to explore some new elements in the bedroom like role play or even toys.
When someone comes to me asking about what to do when your husband doesn’t want you sexually, I cannot stress the importance of innovation enough. Keeping things feeling fresh and new is your biggest ally!
You know your husband better than anyone which means that you know how to surprise him! Surprise is one of the absolute best ways to spice things up and keep things interesting in your relationship.
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