The power of positive reinforcement when saving a relationship
I know that overtime tensions can arise in a relationship and it can start to feel like your nerves are on a short fuse. For example, let’s say that your partner is constantly late to everything and it drives you crazy. Instead of fighting about it the next time it happens, give them positive reinforcement the next time they are not late. Positive reinforcement is a much more productive way to develop new patterns that will protect your relationship. If you tell your partner that their actions and behavior had a great effect on you, they will want to re-create the behavior in the future because they will feel like they will be rewarded.
Remember, if you express your needs as demands, can you become another chore or obligation, you act like the boss, or you make them see you as just another thing they have to do. Dating and relationships should be fun and your partner should feel that they can be themselves around you. If they have to censor who they are, the relationship is in jeopardy.
It is important to understand that relationships are hard and you will experience challenges. You will be tested. There are ups and downs but you were together for a reason. When things get tough remind yourself that you chose each other exclamation point! Timing is everything, so choose the right moment to talk about problems, practice empathy, understanding your partner, and their reasoning.
If you don’t understand, ask sincere questions. Be open to hearing their side of the story because it will help you to define solutions that are mutually beneficial. If your partner does not understand you, you can also ask questions to help them. For example, “How do you imagine that this makes me feel?” Or, “What do you think your wording means to me?” You can always help them see things from your point of view. Sometimes you don’t need to find a resolution immediately, and taking the time to process each side of the story can help you create perfect solutions overtime. This is always better than just putting a Band-Aid on the problem.
Mastering separation prevention
As this article comes to a close, I want to go over a summary of what I explained today. The most important elements of separation and prevention are cultivating a fulfilling personal life and proper communication. This is the foundation for everything that I went over. Without these two elements, it will be very hard to make a relationship thrive. On top of that, there needs to be an unshakable sense of trust and empathy.
So remember, if you want to preserve and protect your relationship, these are the things you need to keep in mind:
- Don’t live exclusively for your significant other
- It is not your partner’s responsibility to make you happy
- Two halves do not make a whole
- Be careful to protect against codependency
- Practice of effective communication
- Build trust in the relationship
- Make sure you have common projects
- Choose the right time to discuss issues so that you may find solutions
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