If you and the woman you love are thinking about getting married, the next two questions to ask yourself are about the environment within your relationship and how you make each other feel.
First, ask yourself if you are prepared to accept your girlfriend, even on days when she gets on your nerves? This has a lot to do with the complicity and the bond that exists between you and how safe you feel (emotionally speaking) in the relationship. Is the foundation solid enough for you to be able to accept one another, accept all of your flaws, and navigate through tensions or disagreements in a positive and productive manner?
The next question is the following:
“Do I confidently believe that my partner will be mindful of my safety, my feelings, and my experiences?”
If “No” has been your response to these questions, your relationship with this person is going to need more time to develop before you should start thinking about getting married, or you might need to evaluate whether or not you are with the person that will make you happiest.
<h2>Why do women want to get married and is it the right time for you?</h2>
It is a very good thing to explore the ins and outs of marriage before tying the knot. Part of this includes understanding why your future spouse wants to get married, and understanding why you want to get married. If the reasons behind it all boil down to wanting to make a promise to one another to be true to one another and true to your bond, because you’re in love and are ready to take the next step towards building your lives together, and because both of you truly feel ready to become a married couple, then I congratulate you! You have something that so many people wish for!
If, on the other hand, you’re wondering, “Why do I want to get married so badly” and the answer has something to do with the thought that marriage will solve the problems that your relationship is facing, then there is a deeper issue at hand and marriage is not the answer. As I said above, marriage should never be thought of as a bandaid that will patch up a faulty relationship. Marriage isn’t always a walk in the park. It is the commitment to one another to work through the challenges that arise as time goes on. And trust me, they will arise.
Make sure that you both go out of your way to create a space that feels safe for both of you to express your needs, feel heard, and be understood. If you are looking for tools to help you with communication that will bring you closer, I encourage you to read this article.
Relationships take time to develop, and no step should ever be rushed. Especially a huge step like marriage. Besides, if you’re planning on spending the rest of your lives together, why rush? The better foundation you lay out for your relationship, the better it will be. Don’t bite off more than you can chew, and establish a life together that both of you can commit to. Make sure you’re patient, and you’ll see that little by little, your relationship will evolve and your bond will deepen. The right time to get married will naturally present itself.
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I sincerely wish you all the best in life and love!
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