We live in a society where everyone broadcasts how amazing their life is on social media, and it would appear that everyone is living the dream. Very often, however, we don’t know if they are truly happy. They can be unhappy with themselves, be dealing with things, taking antidepressants or maybe they’re even drinking their sorrows away. There is often a lot going on underneath the surface that we just don’t know about. Don’t be fooled by social media or the smile on a person’s face. We don’t always know what else they might be going through.
When it comes to your partner, it’s important to be able to communicate about these things and learn when they’re not truly happy. For communication tips, I encourage you to read this in-depth article. In order to be fulfilled and genuinely happy, you have to live a life of purpose and give back to others. You can’t only be converted with yourself and personal gain. If you do, it will just lead to a false sense of happiness that leads to you making mistakes that you regret.
On top of this, happy people can also lose themselves. I can’t tell you how often I have worked with couples that had everything going for them, they had a wonderful relationship, they had built a beautiful life together, they had a fantastic family that supported them, but then they lost track of each other over the years. They lost that bond that they used to have. They stop being a team that is pulling in the same direction.
So it’s not enough to be happy, you have to make sure that your partner is happy too and that you’re still connected. It’s crucial that your partner is not left behind in the marriage or relationship and that you aren’t neglecting each other. Remember, this is a union so it isn’t enough for just one person to be thriving. When that union cracks, you run the risk of having to face infidelity.
You can save the relationship, even if there was cheating
At the end of the day, cheating is not okay. When a happy person cheats, it means that there is a crack in the foundation of the relationship and something needs to change. It can be personal work that the person who cheated needs to do to undo false truths that they’ve learned from our society, it can be communication work, or it can be establishing a better foundation for this relationship.
As I said, both people involved need to be flourishing and growing together as a team, pulling in the same direction. You must also be careful to pay attention to your own sense of wellbeing because what many people don’t realize is that their unhappiness is dragging their partner down. This can happen subconsciously, so be careful to ensure that you are feeling happy and fulfilled in your life as well.
You’re already on the right track though, the fact that you’re reading this article right now means that you’re willing to move beyond the infidelity that took place, you’re trying to understand, and you’re trying to raise your emotional IQ. It means that you’re already being proactive, so you’re already moving towards finding long-term solutions.
This is something to be proud of. As I said above, if you could use a helping hand, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us for a coaching session.
I sincerely wish you all the very best in life and love,