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But at the end of the day, it’s all going to depend on your sense of self-confidence, how much time and effort you put into nurturing a fulfilling personal life, and how you can introduce a feeling of freshness into the relationship. And this brings me to my final point. If your relationship feels monotonous and predictable, it comes as no surprise that the attraction between you would begin to dwindle. Fortunately, this is an easy fix. I recommend coming up with one NEW thing to do on your own, and one NEW thing to do with your partner every single week. Yes, I know you’re busy, but this is your relationship we are talking about here. And it doesn’t have to be anything crazy! It can be as simple as cooking something new together in your kitchen. Just think of how to freshen things up. It’s especially good if you can do things that are exciting. Interestingly enough, adrenaline is closely linked to attraction, so if you can share an experience that involves adrenaline with your partner, it can spark the excitement and attraction between you. For example, a rollercoaster ride or bumper cars.
Let’s say that your relationship has become boring and that’s why you’re struggling with attraction. Remember, you are half of this relationship. If you truly want to change things, it begins with you because that is what you’re in control of. At the end of the day, we cannot control what your significant other, but you can control what you do. So, if you want the relationship to stop being boring, the first thing to do is to stop being boring yourself. Make a bucket list, think of all the goals you’ve been meaning to accomplish, pick up new hobbies, try new activities, and do new things! If you, as 50% of the relationship, are no longer boring, then the relationship can’t be, either!
When you do this, you begin to lead by example. When you start to do more things that are exciting and attractive, you will inspire your partner to do the same. This becomes a win-win situation. I know that sometimes, a partner will feel less inspired to make changes at the beginning, and might say, “That’s gonna be fun, go do your thing and I’ll see you later.” So don’t throw in the towel after your first attempt. Don’t beg them, either. Let them see you transform and this will naturally inspire them to transform with you. These changes will take time. And when you make these changes, make sure you stick to these changes! It’s too easy to do something once and then fall back into the same, unfulfilling patterns.