Attraction: everything you need to know ! 

As I am sure you are well aware, attraction is one of the most important elements of a thriving relationship. Without it, in the best case scenario, the two people in the relationship are living like two friends. Roommates even, under the same roof. In the worst case scenario, not only is there no attraction anymore, there are explosive rights, tensions and resentment. In my line of work, there is a very common theme that I see happening. As time goes on, all the romance and attraction starts to fizzle out until it just disappears. Many people make the mistake of thinking that if they didn’t do the work to maintain attraction, that it can never come back.

They think that it could never be restored, let alone strengthened! This is where we come in. Here at Happily Committed, we have dedicated our lives to helping people live the love lives of their dreams. In today’s article, I want to go over some of the most important tips and tools for boosting attraction in your relationship whether you’ve been together for a few weeks or thirty years! Learning how to boost attraction in your relationship will serve you for the rest of your life and help you to solidify and reinforce the bond between you and the one you love.

I’ll be going over how to reach your maximum attraction power, how to breathe life back into a boring relationship, and how to set yourself up for success! Rest assured that you are not stuck and that you can get in control of this situation. You’re not doomed to a lackluster relationship where there is no attraction or romance! By the time you reach the end of this article, you will have a much better idea of what needs to happen in order for the attraction between you to reach its maximum potential!

Attraction : Why is it so important

As I began saying above, a relationship without attraction can quickly become platonic. It can also lead to a disconnect between two partners that results in a strained relationship. Of course, this leads to problems arising more easily. 

One of my clients came to me recently because her relationship had lost all of the excitement. She was saying that sometimes she looks at her husband and thinks, “Oh, you again. Why are we even doing this? We aren’t having fun anymore.” This, unfortunately, is such a common issue, so if you’re feeling like this I don’t want you to feel alone. So many people wind up feeling disconnected from their partners over time and attraction plays a huge role in this. 

They inadvertently stop making the effort to woo one another and wind up taking each other for granted. Without realizing it, a person will start to think, “Oh, we’re already in an established relationship so I don’t need to do anything to make my significant other more attracted to me. I already did that.” What ends up happening is that the other person can start feeling taken for granted. They can start to feel like they’re just part of the wallpaper, and in turn, it can make them feel like there’s no sense in them trying to attract their partner. The more time that goes on with the two people having this mindset, the easier it is for them to drift further apart. 

Another thing that often happens is that once a person feels like they’ve successfully attracted their partner, they lose track of themselves. Some people will lose themselves in the relationship and stop prioritizing their personal lives. They don’t realize that this has an adverse effect on the relationship. You see, when you stop taking care of yourself, stop nurturing your personal life (passions, hobbies, social circle, etc.), it can become very challenging for your significant other to recognize the person they fell in love with at the beginning of the relationship. This is why we always stress the importance of actively working on your personal sense of well being at all stages of the relationship, but I’ll go deeper into that in a moment!

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There are a couple of different elements when it comes to reviving attraction in a relationship. The first thing we need to do is identify the problem, so I will go over the signs your partner is no longer attracted to you right below. Then we need to start laying out a new action plan that allows you to get back in control of the situation. 

At the moment, you’re going to have to change your approach a bit so that you can create a shift. It IS possible to bring attraction back but you’re going to have to be proactive. The fact that you’re already reading this article means that you’re willing to do what it takes, so hats off to you! So, first, let’s take a look at the signs that something is definitely wrong…

What are the signs that attraction is no longer present in your relationship ?

A lot of people come to me because they are suspicious that their partner is no longer attracted to them and they want to know what to do. So let me share some of the biggest signs a partner is no longer attracted to you. This is typically something that your intuition tells you, but there are certain signs that you can keep an eye out for that can help you to know for sure. The more information you have, the easier it is to employ the right solutions. 

First things first, a sign that the attraction is gone is when your partner doesn’t want to be intimate with you anymore. Whether you try to initiate or not, it would appear that he or she has completely lost interest. In some cases, they might even try to avoid intimacy with you. This usually goes hand in hand with your partner finding everything you do irritating. They will be short in the way that they respond to your questions, it would appear that everything you do gets under their skin (in the bad way), and it might even feel like you can’t do anything right. Your significant other will often prioritize spending time with their friends and family over spending time with you, and you don’t do anything together anymore. 

When a partner loses attraction for you, they’ll start to criticize. It can be about your appearance, it can be about your lifestyle, it can be about your choices… It just seems like they aren’t pleased with anything that you do. Again, don’t worry, because we can change this.

Attraction: How to bring it back

The first and most important thing that we need to talk about is your sense of well being. As I said, it plays a huge role in attraction, and this is why it’s the first thing we zero in on. When you want to re-attract your partner or make someone fall for you, you have got to dedicate your time and energy to becoming the best version of yourself. Everybody can make improvements to boost happiness and the sense of confidence in their lives and let me tell you. People are attracted to happy people that live fulfilling lives like moths to a flame. 

I know that sometimes attraction feels effortless at the beginning of a relationship but think about it this way. At that stage, you already have your own life established, and you haven’t lost yourself in the relationship. This is extremely attractive to your partner and if you want to bring that attraction back into your current relationship, you have to think about what was different when they first started dating you. 

Make sure that you carve out plenty of time for physical exercise to get your serotonin and dopamine flowing, as this will make you feel better, give you more energy, and help you to feel more motivated to continue to make positive changes. Update your look, your wardrobe, and make a conscious effort to make yourself feel attractive every single day. Remember, it’s all about mindset. If you have a positive frame of mind and you’re making yourself feel good, it will undoubtedly trickle into your relationship AND have a positive effect on your partner.  

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The individual details of your relationship will, of course, play a role in how to restore and boost attraction in your relationship, and that is why I highly recommend downloading our new product specifically designed to spark attraction like never before, or getting in touch with me or a member of my team for one on one coaching by clicking here.  

But at the end of the day, it’s all going to depend on your sense of self-confidence, how much time and effort you put into nurturing a fulfilling personal life, and how you can introduce a feeling of freshness into the relationship. And this brings me to my final point. If your relationship feels monotonous and predictable, it comes as no surprise that the attraction between you would begin to dwindle. Fortunately, this is an easy fix. I recommend coming up with one NEW thing to do on your own, and one NEW thing to do with your partner every single week. Yes, I know you’re busy, but this is your relationship we are talking about here. And it doesn’t have to be anything crazy! It can be as simple as cooking something new together in your kitchen. Just think of how to freshen things up. It’s especially good if you can do things that are exciting. Interestingly enough, adrenaline is closely linked to attraction, so if you can share an experience that involves adrenaline with your partner, it can spark the excitement and attraction between you. For example, a rollercoaster ride or bumper cars. 

Let’s say that your relationship has become boring and that’s why you’re struggling with attraction. Remember, you are half of this relationship. If you truly want to change things, it begins with you because that is what you’re in control of. At the end of the day, we cannot control what your significant other, but you can control what you do. So, if you want the relationship to stop being boring, the first thing to do is to stop being boring yourself. Make a bucket list, think of all the goals you’ve been meaning to accomplish, pick up new hobbies, try new activities, and do new things! If you, as 50% of the relationship, are no longer boring, then the relationship can’t be, either! 

When you do this, you begin to lead by example. When you start to do more things that are exciting and attractive, you will inspire your partner to do the same. This becomes a win-win situation. I know that sometimes, a partner will feel less inspired to make changes at the beginning, and might say, “That’s gonna be fun, go do your thing and I’ll see you later.” So don’t throw in the towel after your first attempt. Don’t beg them, either. Let them see you transform and this will naturally inspire them to transform with you. These changes will take time. And when you make these changes, make sure you stick to these changes! It’s too easy to do something once and then fall back into the same, unfulfilling patterns. 

It IS possible to boost attraction in your relationship !

As this article comes to a close, let me summarize what we went over today. First, you have to focus on your own wellbeing because it will have a positive impact on your relationship with the one you love. Next, you have to invite a sense of freshness into your relationship. This will help transform your bond, bring you closer, and make your relationship go from boring and lackluster to existing again! Attraction can come back. You can bring the romance back. You CAN bring that passion back! 

Just think about how you can breathe a breath of fresh air into this relationship and little by little, you’ll inspire your partner as well. You will see your relationship transform before your very eyes! 

As always, we are here to help you every step of the way. Please don’t hesitate to reach out, or check out our YouTube Channel with hundreds of videos designed to help you live the love life you’ve always wanted. Attraction is about to come pouring back into your relationship, and we are very excited for you! Just remember that you are in control of more than you might realize. Even if your partner doesn’t step up to the plate and match your actions right off the bat, don’t panic. These things take time, and the more you stick with it, the better the results will be! All relationships have their ups and downs, so don’t think that you are doomed to a lackluster relationship. It is our job to help your relationship thrive! 

I sincerely wish you all the very best in life and love, 

Your coach when you want to know how to boost attraction in your relationship

Adrian