In all these years as a love and relationship coach, there have been some specific relationship problems and signs that I have taken note of that can mean it’s time to end a relationship. Keep an eye out for the following indicators and you will have a much better idea of how to proceed.
• When your partner is unable to stop putting their needs ahead of yours
If your partner keeps prioritizing what they need at your expense, despite your attempts at healing the relationship, then the relationship may have run its course. This is a red flag. A healthy and fulfilling relationship is a two-way road and you need to work as a team to find solutions and reinforce your bond. If only one person is trying and the other is consistently being a narcissist and is being selfish, it’s not going to work.
• The dreaded blame game
Whether your question is “How to know when a casual relationship is over,” “How to know when a long-distance relationship is over,” or “How to know when a marriage is over,” I want you to pay attention to the dynamic between you and your partner. Are you constantly pointing fingers and playing the blame game? Are you unable to take responsibility for your mistakes?
If the truth is that it doesn’t matter if you’re in a long-term relationship or not, if you have become opponents rather than teammates, then it’s a pretty good indicator when it’s over.
• When you only see the bad
A good way to know when it’s time to split up is to look at how you and your partner see each other. Do you still see the good in one another, or is everything clouded by your relationship issues? Are you still inspired by each other? Do you still feel excited at the prospect of a future together or does it feel like a weight on your shoulders?
When you and your partner see absolutely no good in each other anymore, feel no sense of inspiration anymore, and do not have positive emotions associated with each other, it could mean that this relationship is ending.
• Possessiveness when ending a relationship
Another important element to factor in when you’re trying to determine when it’s time to end your relationship is how much freedom your partner gives you. This is true for both new relationships and old relationships. If he or she is cutting you off from your friends and family and it does not seem like this is going to be able to change, then this can help you determine the answer to your question. Good relationships involve trust and space for independence, and if you’re not getting any of this then it might be time to let go.
• When your partner takes no responsibility
If your partner is unable to see and address their mistakes, and continuously blames you for everything, there is a problem. If your partner is unwilling to change or thinks that you are the issue on a regular basis, it can signify the end of a relationship.