By focusing your energy on yourself, you are setting yourself up for success. You are taking the reins and you’re going to start proving to yourself that you are bigger than this heartbreak. Even if it feels like you have never in your life felt pain like this, the moment you start realizing that you are capable of alleviating it, you will start to take back your power and give yourself I powerful burst of productive energy and reassurance.
Now is the time to commit to yourself. It might take weeks, it might take months, but if you can commit to yourself right now, the process will be sped up exponentially. It’s time to reconnect with what you offer yourself, what you offer your friends and family, what you offer your community, what you offer your professional network… it’s time to think about the things about yourself that make you happy, and the things that you would like to change about yourself.
I often tell my clients that a breakup and heartbreak are often the biggest blessings in disguise. Of course, when you’re in the thick of it, it feels like you’re drowning in sorrow, but all of this serves as a powerful catalyst for positive change. It is granting you the opportunity to hit the reset button in your life, take a long hard look at improvements to be made, and it is giving you a chance to fully implement these changes. In doing so, you are laying out a new foundation for your life that not only will mend your heartbreak, but it will set you up for future success in your personal life and your love life. Alright, enough with the theoretics. Let’s start talking about what to do concretely!
Let’s talk about how to cure a broken heart. As you’ve come to understand, you need to focus on yourself. But what does that look like? How do you do that? First things first, if you haven’t done so already, you have to unfollow your ex on social media. Visual stimulus is incredibly powerful and people very often don’t realize how true the adage, “Out of sight, out of mind” truly is. If you are constantly being exposed to what he or she is doing via their social media profiles, you’re only going to be receiving triggers that make you relive the past. It’s only going to make you miss the good times and think about your sorrows. There is honestly no need for this and it prevents you from moving forward. If you can’t fight the temptation to go snooping through their posts, it would be wise to block them.
Instead, make sure that you’re spending time with people you love and admire that make your life better. It’s important to curate an atmosphere in your life that lifts you up. Even on social media, remove accounts that don’t make you feel good. Instead, follow accounts that inspire you and give you positive emotions! This can and should be applied to your living space as well. One of the absolute best ways to mend a broken heart is to switch up your environment.
I encourage you to start by rearranging your furniture to breathe some fresh air into your space. I know that you probably have so many memories linked to the rooms in your house, so take this opportunity to invite a feeling of freshness in. Take all the objects that remind you of your ex and put them in a box that you either throw away or keep out of sight. You can think about changing the pictures on the wall, getting some new bedsheets, or even painting the walls a new color. It’s incredible how much of a difference a new space can affect your frame of mind!
So surround yourself with new visual stimulus AND the people who lift you up. Surround yourself with people that make you feel like a person who is worthy of love and respect, people that bring you joy and laughter, and people that are happy to share new experiences with you. Take this time to explore new places. Why not go on a weekend getaway with your two best friends or your siblings and see something new. You can go to nature or explore a neighboring city… Try to think about how you can fill your days with newness!
I know that at this point, it has felt really challenging to heal your broken heart, but your heart is what needs some nurturing right now. You can help yourself heal by freshening things up. And don’t forget the power of stepping outside of your comfort zone. There is no better way to experience new things than to challenge yourself to try something you’ve never done before. How about going rock climbing? How about taking a salsa dancing class? What if you and your best friend tried windsurfing? If you want to do something a little less intense, why not try something new like doing a gelato-making class?