One thing to keep in mind right off the bat is that you’re already on the other side of the hardest part. Making the decision to divorce and going through the process of it are some of the hardest things you have to do. But now it is done, and you can begin to work on moving on with your life.
Now, there are many different ways that you can move on from a divorce, and it is not something that happens overnight. I don’t want to lie to you because you always deserve the truth, and it will help you to make sure that you’re putting all the odds in your favor. By having a clear picture of the entire situation at hand, you will have all the tools you need to create the best action plan. I also want to remind you that if you have any questions at all or if you would like to work together, all you have to do is click here for one on one coaching. Through our YouTube videos, the articles on this blog, our programs, and our coaching sessions, we strive to provide you will all the support you need to make sure that you are the happiest that you can be.
The first thing I want to go over with you is the importance of time. The grieving stage after divorce will take time, and it is very important that you allow yourself this time to heal. I know that we live in a go-go-go culture where instant gratification reigns, but we need to be careful about rushing through this stage. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter how busy you are or how many other responsibilities you may have; taking care of yourself after a divorce is crucial. I have seen so many people use the excuse of “I don’t have time” because they don’t want to face their emotions and would rather bury themselves in work than to work through them, but it’s important to note that these emotions are not going to go away just because you’re trying to sweep them under the rug. More often than not, when you try to ignore the pain that you experience post-divorce, it ends up surging up later on in a much more intense way.
By acknowledging the pain you’re feeling, you allow yourself to chip away at it.
A lot of time, healing, moving on, and living your best life after a divorce starts with rebuilding a sense of self-worth. So I encourage you to do these things :
What to do after a divorce: #1
Remember why you are unique.
Make a list of your quality attributes and all the things that you do well. We need to focus on the positive aspects of your life, and every single day, your job is to either put yourself in a position where your quality attributes can really shine or do something that you truly enjoy. This way, you are creating an environment where you can constantly remind yourself of the positive aspects of your life and what you bring to the table.
Finding yourself after divorce: #2
Surround yourself with the people that love you and make you feel safe. This is especially true right after a divorce happens. You’re naturally going to be in a very vulnerable spot, so it’s important to allow your loved ones to support you. It’s very important to feel loved at a time like this because the divorce can leave you feeling rejected and under-appreciated. It’s these people (that perhaps you have neglected while you were so consumed by your marriage and your divorce), that you now you need to reconnect with. Perhaps you need to make amends with friends, family, childhood friends, or colleagues because they will be there and support you through this.
Starting life after divorce: #3
Create new patterns and environments
You need to create something new. It’s the best way to move forward from this divorce. Doing things that will not remind you of the pain or of your ex will make all the difference. When you do this, new, amazing things will start to happen like meeting new people, having new experiences, learning new things about yourself, finding new interests… You can discover a new side of yourself that perhaps you did not know much about! This is actually a large part of what we do with clients every week.
Each person receives customized tips and tools because each situation is entirely unique, but I do focus on self-discovery with all of my clients. I highly encourage you to follow these tips and to start implementing them into your daily life starting today. The more you focus on making your life better, the more gratification you’re going to feel. Better things are to come, and I want you to make this your mantra!