When you’re thinking about moving on, it means that you’re exploring the idea of letting go of a relationship, turning the page, and moving forward with your life. This article is not going to be about situations in which you’re just taking a break, and if you’d like to learn more about space in a relationship, I encourage you to read this article. This article will be dealing with the theme of exiting a relationship or a marriage for good.
It’s an extremely heavy topic, I know, but it does not have to be. If the time has come for you to start thinking about moving on, I want you to know that you can be embarking on one of the most beautiful periods of your life. I know that sounds hard to believe given the current state of things, but believe me. I’ve been in this line of work for long enough to tell you that the end of a relationship, even if it was a longterm one, can be one of the biggest blessings in disguise. Why?
Simply because it grants you the opportunity to usher in a new kind of life that is much more fulfilling, thereby paving the way to a much more fulfilling relationship as well! Many times I work with a client on moving on, and they end up coming back to me later on down the line to say thank you for helping them begin the next chapter of their life that ended up being filled with unprecedented joys. Take Marcy for example. She just messaged me yesterday with this email:
“I wanted to write to you to give you a little update. You remember how hard it was for me to leave my marriage and divorce Fred, but things were so different after I did. I took your advice and started spending all my free time trying out new things on my own and with my friends, I started working out and going to the gym at least twice a week, I started to take my goals really seriously, and I can honestly tell you that I’ve never felt better. I’ve never felt more proud of myself and I can feel it in the way that I talk to people I meet now. I never thought that it would take me leaving my marriage to become the person I wanted to be, and I’ve even met someone new. It’s really early still but I feel really good about it, and I like the way that I am around him. I feel so at ease and confident. Anyway, I just wanted to give you an update and say thanks again 🙂 “
I love getting messages like this and I am happy to say that I receive them often. So, my point is this. Though this could be a very difficult choice to make, if you determine that it is the right choice to make and you use this opportunity to become the new and improved version of yourself, your life will transform into something better than ever before. I’ll expand on that in a little bit though. First, let’s go over what signs it’s time to move on.