Whether you are a codependent partner, a codependent parent, or someone who is generally insecure, there is one specific thing that is going to make a huge difference.
A very common pattern that I’ve noticed in people that come to me asking about how to overcome codependency is that they actually aren’t as busy in their lives as they could be. There are so many things that people can be doing to improve their quality of life and boost their sense of inner happiness, so the very first piece of advice I have for you is this:
If you are struggling with being codependent on your partner, it means that you are struggling from a lack of confidence, and confidence comes from a sense of accomplishment. Simply put, the more things you do, the better you feel! If you’re feeling like you could use a boost of self confidence, I encourage you to download our brand new product on battling insecurity. To access it, all you have to do is click here.
The better you feel about yourself, the better you feel about your life, and the better you feel about your relationship! So if you really want to become more secure in your relationship, you’re going to have to start by becoming more secure with yourself. The best way to do this is to chalenge yourself to do things on a regular basis that make you proud to be who you are!
If you’re sensing codependency symptoms in yourself, think about what kind of things you’ve been wanting to accomplish – both big and small. It can be anything from changing your hair to going back to school! Set goals for yourself that you are confident that you can achieve, and you’ll be setting yourself up for success.
These should be small, medium, and large scale goals, and your confidence and self esteem will grow as you start to realize that you’ve gotten in control of your life and your happiness!
Fill up your schedule with activities (and friends) that bring you joy and not only will you start to feel that you’re overcoming codependency, you’re going to feel a positive shift in your relationship. You’ll feel more satisfied with your life, you’ll be busier (and you’ll have less time for anxious thoughts), and your partner’s interest in you is going to be sparked. You will have so many things to share, you’ll be giving your partner the opportunity to miss you, and you’re going to be feeling much less insecure. The less insecure you feel, the easier it is to beat codependency.
In addition to this, there are a couple other things that will help with codependency traits…