If the person you love broke your trust, you’re going to have to give yourself some time. You have every right to be upset, and it’s going to take a moment to digest your emotions after the fact. So take your time and be patient with yourself.
Like I said above, trust in relationships takes time to put back together, so once you’re ready, sit down and communicate with your partner about what happened. If you try to do this before you’ve given yourself the chance to work through your emotions, it will only lead to another blowout argument that one of you or both of you might end up regretting later on. This would only make matters worse of course.
When you get the information you need from your partner, give yourself some more time to process again. Detach and gain perspective, and then you can make a joint commitment with your partner to commit to each other and work as a team. Identify what your relationship was missing, and you can begin to strengthen your relationship.
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Trust building exercises in a budding relationship
Perhaps you sought out this article not because your relationship has undergone some kind of traumatic event but because you’re doing what you can to protect your relationship from something like that happening! Trustbuilding is one of the best things you can do in order to strengthen your relationship and protect it, especially at the beginning stages of a relationship.
Now, in order to build trust between you and your significant other, it’s all about communication.
You can begin by letting your partner sense that you are choosing to trust them. Give him or her access to your private channels like your phone passwords, your emails, your social media profiles…
It’s important to give your partner the opportunity to be trusted and to not always assume that they will fail. The more you show your partner that you trust them, the more they will do the same for you and you can cultivate a relationship in which trust naturally builds.
If in the past something has happened to you that makes it hard for you to trust people in a romantic setting, you’re going to have urges to check in. A trust building exercise that you can work on on your own is choosing to give your partner privacy and space every time you feel the urge to check up on them. It will help you to establish new patterns that help you learn to trust them.
You can have your partner help you with this by having them check in or tell you when they go out, but when they do, don’t call, write, or check in any more after that! Choose to trust them and with time, you’ll work up to your partner being able to go out without telling you where they’re going and who they’re with.
And the same goes for you! If you’re going out without your partner, check in every now and then. This way, you can show them that they haven’t been forgotten and you’re thinking of them, too.
Another exercise to build trust comes in the form of talking to each other about your physical boundaries, and then working on respecting those boundaries in the bedroom. Help each other to understand what makes each of you feel safe and secure in the relationship.
Again, communication is key so set some time aside every week to catch up.