When are wondering about “What is codependency and how do I stop it,” the thing I want you to keep in mind is that it’s all about establishing and reinforcing a sense of confidence in your own life. The more confident you feel about your life and what you bring to the table, the easier it is to fight off codependency, and a sense of confidence comes from a sense of accomplishment.
The more things you do, the better you start to feel, so the key to success here is starting to fill up your schedule with more activities that benefit you. If you want to become more secure in this relationship and stop being codependent, then you can become more secure with yourself by doing things that make you proud to be who you are!
When we are working with clients in this situation, one of the first things we start doing is setting goals – both short term and longterm – that they are confident that they can achieve. So if you’re working towards things that you care about and are succeeding, you’ll start to feel much better about your life and you’ll stop depending on your significant other for your sense of happiness and self worth.
An easy way to start working on this is to start thinking about a timeline. Let’s say that you’re setting a professional goal for yourself in terms of where you’d like to be two years from now. In order to reach this goal, where would you need to be about one year from now? And to reach that goal, where would you need to be six months from now? Two months from now?
So what can you start doing right now to help you work towards where you’d need to be two months from now on your timeline?
Little by little, as you start achieving more and more accomplishments, you’ll start to feel better about your own life and you’ll stop depending on your significant other for the positive feelings you’re craving. You can also reach out to us for one on on guidance and we can help you navigate this situation from A to Z. All you have to do is click here to get in touch with me or a member of my team!
It IS possible to fix the relationship when you’ve seen signs of codependency
As this article comes to an end, I want to reassure you that even if you’ve recognized all the signs of codependency in your behavior, you can change your course of action. Keep the indicators of codependency in mind, and it will help you to steer clear of them. To quickly summarize the signs of codependency for you:
• The inability to spend time away from your partner
• Rooting your identity into your partner or your relationship
• Fear of your partner cheating on you or lying to you, even if you have no reason to feel this way
• Excessive jealousy
• Trying to control your partner, needing to know where they are and what they’re doing at all times
• Generally thinking about your partner to the point of obsession
• Being unwilling or unable to give your partner space
I encourage you to start working on creating a life for yourself that makes you feel empowered and fulfilled, and you’ll see that the signs of codependency will start to fade away. We have a specially designed product to help you overcome relationship insecurity that you can access by clicking here! As I said above, we are here to help you if you have any questions at all. Join the Happily Committed Project and transform your relationship in a meaningful and dignified way!
I sincerely wish you all the best in life and love,
Your coach when you want to know how to spot the signs of emotional codependency