If you’ve been familiar with our work over the years, then you know that one of our specialties is helping couples get back together. So many people struggle with watching a relationship fall apart, despite their best efforts, and they just don’t know what to do to make things right again.
I wanted to write some content for you on this subject, because if you’ve opened this article, it means that you have someone in mind and you’re wondering, “Is he still in love with me?”
There are various signs to keep an eye out for and after working with thousands and thousands of individuals and couples, I can confidently tell you what they are.
The better idea you have of where this person stands, the easier it will be to lay out the best strategy. I know that when you break up with a person you love, it can feel like your entire world is falling apart. It’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but that is what we are here for.
In today’s article, I want to give you a bit of comfort and a bit of guidance. So, what are the signs that your ex or the person that you developed feelings for misses you? What are the signs that they still love you? Let’s dive in and find out!
Does he still love me: The basics
Oftentimes when I am working with someone who is asking about how to know if he still loves you, there is a sense of fixation at play. In other words, the person is often so focused on getting back together with the person they love at all costs, that they lose track of everything else.
I want to warn you against developing this mindset because it automatically puts you in a position of weakness, and when you’re in a position of weakness, you’re going to have a much harder time reestablishing a relationship with this man.
It’s important to note that if you approach this situation from a place of desperation and vulnerability, you’re going to put yourself at a disadvantage. Men are attracted to a sense of confidence and independence, and they are especially attracted when they feel that a woman doesn’t need them.
This dynamic plays into their attraction to The Challenge… But I am getting ahead of myself. We need to make sure that you are currently the best version of yourself, and we need to make sure that you are the person that he fell in love with.
For now, you might be feeling like this is the most painful thing you’ve ever gone through and that this is the worst time of your life, but we need to make sure that we shift the way that you see the situation and the process. The truth is that this is actually an incredible opportunity for you to grow and flourish, and to subsequently lay out a much more solid foundation for a new relationship with this man.
If the breakup happened, it means that it needed to happen. It means that it needed to teach you something. So, if you can embrace this experience as an opportunity to better yourself, not only will you become happier and more confident in your own life, but you will also in doing so, you will have a much easier time re-attracting this man.
It will help you to become more empowered and more magnetic, and you will be able to bring him back into your life for the right reasons. It will be from a place of well-being and confidence.
So if you’re wondering, “Is he still in love with me,” I want to bring your attention to an extremely important point. This is not the right question to be asking. The most important thing to be asking yourself right now is whether or not you love yourself and whether or not you are proud of the person you are today.
This is the question that you need to think about before you can start thinking about getting back together with someone. If not, then the relationship won’t have a solid foundation. Once you start to love yourself, I can tell you right now that that man will come running back. He saw the potential in you before, so he will be attracted back like a moth to a flame when he sees that you’re becoming the new and improved version of the woman he fell in love with in the first place.
If you are willing to put in the work and you truly want to attract this man back into your life in a healthy and sustainable way, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us for one on one coaching. It would be our pleasure to give you a custom action plan that is designed to set you up for longterm success in your personal life and in your love life. Join the Happily Committed Project and transform your life by clicking here for a coaching session!
We don’t believe in quick and easy fixes for complex problems. This is your life we’re talking about here, and the action plan will vary for each person. Now, to help you gage what the current situation is, let’s take a look at the signs he’s still in love with you.
Is he still in love with me: The signs
Now that we’ve gone over the important elements to keep in mind, we can start talking about how to tell if he still loves you. First and foremost, the biggest telltale sign is that he still wants to keep in touch with you. If your ex goes out of his way to still talk to you, still see how you’re doing, still share things with you, send things to you, etc, it means that you’re very much still on his mind and that chances are that he is still in love with you.
Similarly, if you’re doing the same thing and he isn’t pushing you away, it’s a good sign. Maybe you’re trying to be in contact with him pretty much all the time, and he seems to be okay with it. Maybe you’re asking him for help or his advice on things all the time, and he’s always available. Maybe you’re always suggesting hanging out, and he’s into it. If these things are happening, then it is highly likely that your ex is still in love with you. In cases where people just want to stay friends, there is usually a period during which they need to take some distance from one another so that they can recalibrate the dynamic. If romantic feelings are involved, it is much harder to keep space between you.
That said, it’s important to note that there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. A person can be there for you when you need them if they love you, but if they’re always seeking you out because they just want to be in contact with you, it’s a different story.
So what else should we look for when a person is genuinely still in love with you? Well, another one of the biggest signs that we see in our coaching sessions on a daily basis is when an ex reaches out to you for seemingly unimportant reasons. For example, he’ll call you up and say, “Hey I think I left my favorite pair of socks at your place…” Or, “I think I left a CD in your car!” In other words, he’s basically coming up with excuses to be in contact with you. The more excuses a person makes to be in contact with you, the more likely it is that they still have strong feelings for you. If you think about it, if you really didn’t want to see someone, you would just let go of the unimportant things of yours that they still might have. If it is something of sentimental value, that’s a different story, but keep an eye on whether your ex is making up excuses to see you.
How to know if he still loves you: Social media
Social media has become such a huge part of our lives and it becomes so easy for us to stay in touch with people. So if you’re looking for the signs he’s still in love with you, keep an eye on how active he is on YOUR social media. Is he viewing your stories? Is he liking your posts, is he still on your Snapchat? If he’s doing this, he’s clearly curious about what’s going on in your life, what you’re doing, who you’re doing it with, where you’re going, and how you’re feeling. This means that he still feels something for you. If he didn’t, he would be busy getting on with his life and forgetting that you were in it.
This is even true if he started dating someone else! There is a common phenomenon that I’ve noticed in my coaching sessions when someone comes to me asking about how to tell if someone is still in love with you. Let’s say that the ex in question has moved on and is either in a brand new relationship or in a rebound relationship, but when he starts seeing that other guys are showing up in his ex’s social media posts, he’ll reach out to her. He starts to seem jealous, even though he’s with someone else! This is a telltale sign that he still loves you.
So if your ex is paying attention to your social media, make sure you give him something worthwhile to see! Don’t just be out having wild parties – show him that you’re working on creating a better life for yourself. Show him that you’re growing. Think about the issues that caused the breakup to happen and think about what changes you can make in your personal life to keep the same types of things from happening again in the future. Social media is the perfect platform to showcase positive change that is going to attract him back into your life. So if he’s in love with you, AND you’re growing, he’s going to be incredibly attracted to you. On the flip side, if he is watching what you’re doing on social media and he sees that you’re not changing, the love he may feel for you will not be enough.
How to know that he still loves me: Keeping in touch with your loved ones
Another sure fire sign that he still loves you is when he makes an effort to keep in touch with your parents, your siblings, or even your friends. This means that he doesn’t want to disconnect from you completely. As you know, when you’re in a relationship with someone, your lives start to become incredibly interconnected. If he truly wanted to move on and remove you from his life, he would also remove the people that are linked to you. If you see that he’s still reaching out to your people to check in and see how they’re doing, it means that in his mind, he’s still connected to parts of your life. Like I said above, if he really wanted to move on, he could easily cut ties with everyone and remove all of you from his life.
It’s also important to note the complexity of emotions. Your ex might be in a period where he’s trying to figure out how he feels about you. Just because a relationship ends, it doesn’t mean that the love you shared just evaporates into thin air. It’s true that a relationship always happens for a reason, so you might be witnessing an ex who is currently conflicted. He might still be 100% in love with you, but doesn’t know how to approach the situation because he feels that a relationship with you isn’t going to work. I want you to know that a relationship can be healed if you apply the right solutions, and if you are seeing that the love is still there, it is an extremely positive thing! We just need to keep in mind that love is not enough. Think of the relationship as a house. It’s not going to be whole without a foundation, without walls, or without a roof. It is a complex structure that needs all parts of it in order to be complete! Love is an essential element of course, but if there are cracks in the foundation, it’s not going to hold together.
How to bring your ex back when he still loves you
The most important thing to remember is that at the end of the day, your ex’s love for you is not going to be what brings him back. Love is not enough to repair a broken relationship. If your ex sees that you’re no different from when the breakup took place, he could love you to the moon and back but that’s not going to make him want to come back. In order to attract your ex back into your life once and for all, you’re going to have to make sure that you are living a life that you are proud of, you are going to have to ensure that you’ve pinpointed what kinds of changes you need to make in your personal life and dedicate ample time to making improvements. It is crucial that you take this time work towards your personal and professional goals.
And this isn’t just for your ex! It’s primarily for you. The happier you are in your life, the easier it becomes to attract all the things that you want. When it comes to your ex, he needs to understand that if he were to get back together with you, he would be able to have a brand new relationship with the new and improved version of the woman he fell in love with in the first place. This is the recipe for success.
Make sure that you use social media to showcase that being with you would mean progress. The last thing we want is for him to still love you, but he reticent about getting back together with you simply because he’s afraid that it would mean taking a step backwards and winding up unhappy again.
So as we get closer to the end of this article, I want you to know that if you’re getting the feeling that your ex still loves you, you’re probably not wrong. Our intuition is an incredibly powerful thing. Just make sure that you don’t mistakenly assume that this is enough to make him come back. As I’ve been saying throughout this entire article, your ex will only come back if he feels certain that by doing so, he could experience something new and more fulfilling than ever before. He is not going to want to step back into the same relationship you had before because let’s face it, you both know how that ended. So now is the time to start to build a new relationship by building a new future for yourself. One of the things I always tell my clients is that a breakup can be a golden opportunity. Clearly something wasn’t working and the breakup needed to happen, but you have now been given the chance to take a step back and analyze what went wrong, and start working on making things right again.
To summarize what we went over in today’s article, these are the biggest indicators that you need to keep an eye out for when you’re wondering, “Is he still in love with me:”
1. He makes excuses to be in touch with you
2. He stays in touch with your family and friends that he met through you
3. He pays attention to all the things you post on social media
We just need to work on making him understand that if he comes back, he’ll be happier than ever before! And that is where we can help. I encourage you to reach out to us for one on one coaching so that we can lay out the perfect action plan for getting your ex back. This can be the beginning of an incredible new chapter in both of your lives, and sometimes couples need some time apart so that they can recalibrate and set out on the right path.
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I sincerely wish you all the very best in life and love,
Your coach when you’re looking for the signs he still loves you