When you are starting to develop serious feelings for someone, it comes as no surprise that you would want to know if he’s on the same page as him. Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could just look inside the mind of a man and instantly know if he’s falling in love with you? Unfortunately, that isn’t an option but I have good news for you. You have just found the next best thing! As a team of love and relationship experts, we work closely with people who are working through all kinds of different challenges in their love lives. So, I understand how difficult it can be to read the other person’s mind and understand where they’re at.
That is precisely why I wanted to write this article for you. I will give you 7 signs he has fallen for you and then I want to go into how to make him develop stronger feelings for you! Even if you don’t see the signs that this man has fallen in love with you quite yet, by the time you get to the end of this article, you will know what a man finds irresistible in a partner. Remember, this isn’t just about “pleasing a man.” It’s about living your life in a way that is so gratifying that he would be a fool to not want to be a part of it. But I am getting ahead of myself…
Let’s dive into the 7 ways to know if a man really loves you!
What makes a man fall in love?
Before I dive into the concrete signs, I want to take a moment to go over what exactly makes a man fall in love. When you have a clear understanding of what a man gravitates towards, it will be much easier to recognize if those elements are present in your relationship or not!
First and foremost, men fall in love when you are in your element. In other words, when you are being authentic to your true self. A man will fall in love when you’re doing things that you truly love doing and are genuinely quite good at. This is when you’re thriving, and he is attracted to that feeling like a gravitational pull. These are natural things that you can do without being in your head. Usually you tend to be really attractive to a man when you’re in your element. This is usually when you’re not thinking about it and you’re just going about doing something you enjoy. It can be anything from being free and having fun on the dance floor, to when you’re in the boardroom presenting an exciting new project.
When you’re in your element and are effortlessly succeeding, you emit a certain energy that pulls a man in and attracts him. It isn’t the supermodel type women that tend to attract men and make them want to stay. It’s the women that have a magnetic flair about them, and this flair comes from being authentic and truly happy. It doesn’t come from trying to impress others or prove anything. It is a sense of self confidence that comes from being authentic to who you are.
So if you’re reading this article cease you want to know how to make a man develop feelings for you, my first suggestion is to really figure out what your element is and make sure that you deliberately put yourself in these situations where you can shine. Focus on the area of your life in which you excel.
Men are attracted to confident women. If you’re always tiptoeing around this man, it will be harder to attract him to you and inspire him to develop feelings for you. We have actually worked on a program developed to help people overcome insecurities and become more confident in who they are so that they can attract the love and the life that they want. I highly encourage you to check it out. To access it, all you have to do is click here.
Next, men love a challenge. They’re wired to chase and pursue, not to be chased and pursued. I know that this can be challenging, especially if you’re already interested in a man that isn’t chasing you. It’s easy to feel impatient and start to pursue him more intensely, and inadvertently push him away. You have to be aware of this and position yourself in a way where this man can chase you. Another thing to keep in mind that men love to be with women with whom they can be themselves. It’s no fun to be with someone that you can’t really connect with long-term. It’s very important to understand this so that you can get out of your own head, focus on living a life that inspires you and makes you happy and feel confident. This will attract him.
Finally, men fall in love when they meet someone who can help them to accomplish their dreams. Every man has certain aspirations in their life, and whatever it may be, it’s really important to understand what truly motivates him. This is about more than just what makes him tick, this is about what really motivates him and what he is trying to accomplish. If you’re able to empower him and help him accomplish what matters most to him, more often than not, he will fall for you. Men want to accomplish their goals and write their legacy, just like you do. When a man finds a woman with whom he can live out his values and accomplish his dreams, they tend to fall pretty hard.
If a man really loves you, you will see it in his actions
I have coached so many people over the years who were having a hard time deciphering their partner’s emotions. That is one of the reasons why we’ve created this company and why we have dedicated our lives to helping people feel fulfilled and secure in their love lives! So what are the clear signs that a man is falling madly in love with you?
The first thing we need to take a look at is his actions. We’ve all heard the phrase, “actions speak louder than words,” but it is important to note how true this really is. A man who is falling in love with you will actually make himself available for you and give you his time and attention. He isn’t just going to tell you about how much he wants to see you and spend time with you. He is going to make it happen! People are very busy these days, and most men tend to be very picky about how they spend their time. In fact, everyone is. We live in a society where we have so much on our plates, so many responsibilities, and so many things that require our attention… So if a man takes his valuable free time and chooses to give it to you, it means that you hold a special place in his heart.
As you know, the best way to get to know someone is to spend time with them, so if a man is making himself available to you, it means that he yearns to be closer to you and learn more about you. There have been so many people that I have coached, both men and women, who start to overthink things. As soon as they begin to develop deeper feelings for a person, they start to fixate on the situation, analyze every little thing, and then they end up starting to act differently too. All of this happens because suddenly there are “stakes’ and they’re too much in their heads. So just keep this in mind. If you see a man that is definitely investing, who definitely wants to spend time with you, who is definitely making himself available to you, know that you have someone that is falling in love with you! If, on the other hand, this man keeps telling you that he wants to see you but never follows through, he isn’t showing you the behavior that indicates that he’s truly falling for you.
If a man really loves you, he’s going to introduce you to his loved ones
A common theme in situations where a man isn’t serious about a budding relationship is that he doesn’t go out of his way to introduce his partner to the people he cares about. In some instances, he might try to avoid the topic, or he might keep putting it off till a later date. On the flip side, if a man is eager to introduce you to his friends and family, it means that he is falling for you. It is a very good sign when a man wants to bring you into his inner circle because again, they are very picky about how they spend their time and who they introduce to their friends and family. When they introduce a woman to their loved ones, it means that they truly care. It means that they want to build something with you.
Speaking of which, if a man really loves you he will start to make future plans with you. I am not talking about planning a date for Friday night. If a man really loves you will will plan something special with you in the future like a trip somewhere. And more specifically, I am talking about longterm plans and common life projects. I’m talking about way down the line. When a man starts to ask you questions about moving in together, about marriage, and children, then you know that he’s really in love with you. So pay attention to what kind of important conversations you’re having with him, and if he sees you in his future or not.
If you’re unsure, just ask yourself if he talks more about his future, or your future together. Men often shy away from these things, and if he’s talking about these things with you, it means that he really loves you.
If a man really loves you he will value your opinion and not pursue others
Another sign that he really loves you is when a man starts to share his interests with you. As a general rule, men love the pursuit. They love to chase and court women, but they’ll start to bring a woman into the different elements of his life when he truly cares for her. When he starts to share some of his interests and passions, and wants to bring you into his world in that way, it’s a clear sign that he really loves you. Men won’t do that with just anybody.
The next sign a man really loves you is going to sound very obvious, but you’d be surprised at the number of people that don’t take this into consideration. In fact, just recently I was coaching a woman here in Florida, and she was dating a man that was clearly very invested in her. We went over all the signs I spoke about above, but this is the one that really grabbed her attention. So, I simply asked her if this man was talking to other women, if he was flirting with other women, and if he was interested in other women? She said no, he only had eyes for her. That was the telltale sign that made something click in her mind that made her understand that he was really in love with her, and her alone. When she understood that he showed no interest towards other women and compared this behavior to what she saw in previous relationships with men that didn’t invest in a relationship with her, she recognized that she now had something healthy and stable.
When a man really loves you, he will go out of his way to show you
Again, we’re talking about the fact that actions speak louder than words here. But I want to dive a little deeper. If a man really loves you he will be selfless, and he will consistently do little things to show you he cares. And I’m not just talking about his time. If he’s trying to make you happy, when he is able to put you before his own priorities, when he is truly trying to be there for you and meet your needs, you are looking at a huge sign that he really loves you. This means that not only is he falling in love with you, he is also a genuinely good man. Selflessness is a rare virtue these days, and it truly is one of the most important pillars of a healthy relationship.
Last but not least, if a man does his very best to meet your unspoken needs, it means that he has very deep feelings for you and he is in love. If he is there for you in little ways without you even having to tell him your needs, then this man loves you very much. He is making your needs a priority. If you have recognized all the signs a man really loves you that I’ve gone over in this article, then please rest assured that you are very cherished by this man. Please don’t leave room for doubt of insecurities. I know that in many cases, people are struggling with allowing themselves to believe that they’re worthy of love because of lack of self confidence or perhaps something that has happened in the past. If you now have a partner that clearly values you, it is important to allow yourself to enjoy the relationship, and subsequently, allow the relationship to continue to blossom.
Do not focus on insecurities or any potential shortcomings, because there is nothing worse than an amazing woman who doubts herself and her lovability! I know that insecurity and fear of rejection are common things that we all deal with, but our goal here at Happily Committed is to provide you with confidence and tools to open the door to a truly gratifying love life.
What to do when you’re not sure if a man really loves you
If you have read this article and are under the impression that the man you’ve been seeing isn’t quite in love with you yet, I want you to know that you can influence the situation through your approach. As we briefly went over above, a man is attracted to an exciting challenge. When he feels like everything is being handed to him on a silver platter, it makes it dangerously easy for him to take you for granted. One of the most common mistakes I see in women who are trying to get someone to fall for them are:
1. Bending over backward to make him happy
2. Always talking about how much they feel for him and how attracted they are to him
3. Making themselves available 24/7 to him
4. Losing track of their personal lives, goals, hobbies, friends and family
This is such a common topic. So many people I work with want to make sure that the man develops the same deep feelings, so they end up giving to him. Giving him time, giving him attention, even giving him gifts… In other words, they’ll try everything they can to SHOW the man how much they love him. Unfortunately, this doesn’t make a man fall in love with you. It only takes away from your own sense of wellbeing. As I was saying above, you have to be living a life that makes you feel great. This is for you, not for the man, but it will have a very positive effect on how he sees you. When he sees you thriving, living your best life, being the absolute best version of yourself, he is going to become more and more attracted to you and the life you live. In Hollywood and Disney movies, the example we receive as we are growing up is that if you want to receive more love, you have to give more love. But that’s not quite how it works. When you approach the situation like this, you just end up losing yourself. A man will fall in love with you when he realizes that you are special, and that there isn’t anyone else like you. He has to understand that you are unique.
When I tell this to people, many of them say, “Okay, but I don’t think I’m all that special.” The truth is that you are! There is literally no other person on this entire planet that is like you. The more you can show him who you are, what you love, what dreams you’re working towards, and how you want to create your future, the more likely he will be to fall in love with you. So many people try to play a role to get a man to fall in love and there is no way that this can work longterm. You can’t expect to continue to play a role for the rest of your life. That is no way to be truly happy. You have to be yourself, be confident in who you are and in what you bring to the table.
At the end of the day, any woman can give a man love and attention, but no other woman in this world can be you. There are so many articles out there that tell you what you need to change about yourself in order to make a man fall in love with you, but that is not the winning philosophy. You need to fall in love with yourself in order to make a man fall in love with you. In other words, the happier you are with yourself and what you can offer, the more attractive you will be to another person. If you think about it, people are attracted to people who are happily living the life of their dreams like moths to a flame. So don’t hesitate to talk about your passions, the music you like, the places you’ve gone, the exciting things you’ve done.
This man will fall in love with who you are; not what you give to him. So many people I work with come to me saying, “I really don’t understand. I give him so much love, I do everything for him, I try to show him how much I love him all the time. When a man really loves you, doesn’t he do the same?” The problem here is that this makes it too easy for him to take you for granted, and when a man takes you for granted, he’s not going to develop feelings of love. Both men and women work like this. We all value what we don’t have. So if you want this man to fall in love with you, you have to make sure that you are unique and that he sees it, you have to avoid being needy or clingy. You have to be confident and remember that the more that you give, the easier it is for the other person to take and not give back. There needs to be balance, and he needs to pursue you AND meet you halfway.
The other thing we need to keep in mind is that you have to give it time. We worked with someone recently who had been dating someone and they were having such a good time together, but the man wasn’t falling in love with her. Spending a good time together isn’t enough! You have to build proper chemistry and more often than not, for a man, men need time before they fall in love. They also need time to be themselves.
If a man really loves you he will do these things, but you can always increase the connection between you!
As this article comes to a close, I want to summarize what we went over together. If a man really loves you, you’re going to see it in his actions and his plans. Here are the elements we need to keep an eye out for in order to tell if a man really loves you:
1. If a man really loves you, he will put in the work to spend time with you, don’t doubt it. He’s falling for you
2. If a man really loves you, he will introduce to family and friends
3. If a man really loves you, he will be excited about making future plans with you
4. A man really loves you when he shares his personal life, values your opinion
5. When a man really loves you, he doesn’t chase other women
6. If a man really loves you, he is selfless and is always doing little things to show you he cares
7. He tries to meet your unspoken needs
If you are seeing these signs in your relationship, it is a clear indication that he loves you. If you feel like there is some room for improvement, I encourage you to use the tips I went over in the last part of this article. If you really want to make someone fall for you, you have to fall in love with yourself first. This is how he will pick up on the elements that will make his feelings for you develop:
1. Trust your personality and what you bring to the table
2. Don’t bend over backward trying to make this man value you more
2. Always avoid needy or clingy behavior
3. Take your time by enjoying the present moment
AS always, we are here to help you every step of the way. If you would like a helping hand, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or a member of my team by clicking here. Join the Happily Committed Project and learn how to transform your relationship so that it can be at its full potential.
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I sincerely wish you nothing but the best in life and love.
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