When you’re struggling with overcoming codependent behavior, it is important to make the choice to trust your partner every single day. If you’re constantly doubting them and you have no concrete reason to feel this way, you’re going to create tensions in the relationship that would be very easy to avoid.
Your mindset is extremely important, so make sure that you’re approaching the situation in the best way possible. Choosing to trust your partner will bring you a sense of peace (and the more you do this, the more natural it will begin to feel), and it will also change the dynamic between you two. It will make things feel lighter and more fun, and this will make your partner associate you more with positivity.
You can also do an exercise that I like to give my clients: writing in a Gratitude Journal. Create a mindset of abundance and not scarcity. Every time something positive happens that makes you feel good, write it down in this journal. It can be something that happened between you and your partner, something nice that someone said to you, a compliment you’ve received, something heartwarming that you witnessed, the list can go on and on.
Whenever you’ve feeling down or insecure, just open this journal to a random page and start reading all the nice things that exist in your life!
Work on elevating your self esteem and self confidence
When we are codependent in relationships, it’s because we may feel “less than” in the eyes of our partner, our peers, or even in our own eyes. We may feel that we are not lovable, or worth committing to, so we seek constant reassurance that we are loved. So when it comes to overcoming codependency in relationships, the higher you can bring your sense of self, the less validation you will need from others (including your partner!)
So like I said above, start working on setting goals for yourself and reaching them. Put yourself in situations where you know you can excel. For example, if you’re quite talented at painting, attend some figure drawing classes where you can create something you’re proud of while doing something for YOU.
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Working on overcoming codependency in your life and in your relationship
You hold the key to success. All you need to do is make matters into your own hands, and decide that you’re going to build your sense of self confidence, while committing to goals you set for yourself. Find ways to manage the things you usually lean on your partner for and prove to yourself that you can provide for yourself! To take it a step further, I encourage you to check out our product on overcoming insecurity and lack of confidence in a relationship once and for all. To access it, all you have to do is click here.
And as this article comes to close, I want to leave you with one last tidbit of advice.
Confidence comes from a sense of accomplishment, so a surefire way to start feeling better about your life is to start filling it with things that you’re proud of. Not only will this boost your sense of self esteem, it’s going to make it much easier to steer clear of any type of codependency on your significant other!
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I sincerely wish you all the best in life and love.
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