Divorce: is it time?
The most important thing here is to not have any regrets. The biggest thing I want you to take from this article is that if you feel like you’ve done everything you can to try to save this relationship and it’s still falling apart, then you can peacefully let it go and move on. On top of that, no marriage can work if only one person is fighting for it. It’s a two-person job and both parties have to work to sustain a marriage over time. It’s maybe cliché, but marriage truly is like a garden. If you don’t water it, it will wither away.
So, even if you feel like it would be such a shame to throw away the marriage that you’ve been working on for so long, if your partner isn’t willing to put in an effort anymore, it’s time to move on. It is not your sole responsibility to carry this marriage. The next thing to think about when you’re wondering “Should I get a divorce” is how your partner sees you. Is there still love in their eyes or has it all turned to contempt? One of the patterns that I’ve noticed over the years is that when a relationship sours, individuals are no longer able to see the good in their partners. When this happens, and if you feel that your partner does not treat you with respect, it’s time to move on. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect.
Another thing to pay attention to is whether or not this marriage is about both of your happiness. When I am working with couples who are on the brink of divorce, the marriage becomes about only one person’s happiness. There is also the blame game to pay attention to. If you two can no longer work as a team, it might be time to move on.
I want to go over some of the main indicators that it’s time to get a divorce with you in this short article, but I highly recommend reading this one on how to know if it’s truly time to end a marriage by clicking here. In it, you will find in-depth information on how to analyze your current situation and make the right choice.