Everyone has heard about cheating, but more often than not, we think about physical cheating. But what about emotional cheating? What exactly is this and can it really damage a relationship? Emotional betrayal is just as real as physical cheating, and it’s important to learn how to recognize it and fight against it.
In today’s article I will be going over what emotional betrayal in marriage actually is and what you can do about it, so stay tuned my friends!
Emotional betrayal in marriage: What is it?
If you’ve found this article because you were looking for an answer to, “What does betrayal mean in a relationship” or because you are unsure about what exactly emotional infidelity is, think about it this way:
Emotional betrayal in a marriage or in a relationship is when a person builds an emotional connection with someone who is not their significant other.
It’s a secret emotional bond that is cultivated over a period of time and is hidden from their partner. A good way to determine whether what you or your partner have developed with another person can be defined as emotional betrayal is to ask yourself if it’s something that feels like it needs to be hidden.
So perhaps you’re reading this article because you’ve become very close with someone who isn’t your spouse, or your spouse has developed a close relationship with someone that isn’t you. There hasn’t been any physical intimacy, but the connection is there.
If you are unsure as to whether or not this constitutes an emotional betrayal of trust in a marriage, ask yourself if this “relationship” with the other person is being kept secret. Are texts from this person being hidden or even deleted? Does the wedding ring come off whenever you or your spouse spend time with this other person?
In some cases, a person will emotionally betray their spouse with someone simply by allowing someone to flirt with them over an extended period of time without actually bringing up the fact that they’re married…
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Forms of betrayal in relationships are relative
This is a tricky subject because when it comes to emotional betrayal, it can be relative, which is why it’s so important to have honest conversations with your significant other about what kind of behavior you find acceptable and what you don’t.
For example, some people might think that flirting with someone who isn’t their spouse isn’t a big deal as long as nothing physical happens. For others, this would constitute emotional infidelity and it highly unacceptable.
It is so important for you and your spouse to be on the same page regarding this because it could save you a lot of trouble in the future. Outline your boundaries with each other, talk about your non-negotiables.
The influx of technology and all the apps we use to be in contact with each other all the time have made it considerably easy for people to develop friendships with new people and it’s up to you to be transparent with one another about what kinds of “friendships” are acceptable in your marriage.
Remember, you have to work as a team to protect your relationship and foster a sense of confidence and wellbeing. Don’t let social media blur the lines for you. Be honest with yourself about what emotional betrayal looks like and talk about it with your husband or wife. Encourage them to talk to you about it too so that you can make sure that you’re both on the same page.
Betrayal in a relationship doesn’t have to be the end
As challenging as cheating – both emotional and physical – can be, I want you to know that if you choose to fight for your relationship, you can heal it. It might seem hard to believe when you’re in the thick of it, but we have written so many articles on the topic. For more in-depth information on how to save your relationship after infidelity, I recommend reading this article.
If you’re feeling betrayed in a relationship, there is an article that you can read on how to bounce back after infidelity that you can access by clicking here.
So if you have come to the realization that there has been emotional betrayal in your relationship because you genuinely feel that boundaries have been crossed, I want you to know that you’re not alone. If you would like to benefit from one on one coaching, you can reach out to me or a member of my team by clicking here. You can also access our product designed to help you overcome infidelity by clicking here.
I sincerely wish you all the very best in life and love,
Your coach when you’re faced with emotional betrayal in marriage,
Yes, I feel my partner stepped over the boundaries. As he deleted email messages from another woman who he was visiting on an almost weekly basis. As she owns her own retail shop he had a valid reason to be going there, even spending enough time for chats and a cup of tea. They have developed a close friendship which I sense is threatening, yet to no avail does my partner admit that what he is doing is harmful. It is. And now that I know he is emailing her and deleting them so I cannot read them, I know there is an aspect to their so called friendship which is secretive. He obviously does not want me to know what they wrote to each other. This is in my opinion emotional infidelity at its finest.
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