Many people suffocate their boyfriends without realizing it simply by demanding to know where he is, what he’s doing and with whom all the time. Not only can this become tiring and frustrating very fast, it will also make him feel that you don’t trust him. So again, he’ll associate you with negativity.
We want him to feel that you are able to give him the space to figure out who he is, to spend time doing the things that are important to him, and move towards this goals. Why? Well, men tend to distance themselves from a relationship when they feel that they are being forced to pick between their lives and their partner.
Because men place such high value on being able to indulge in their interests, make sure you let your guy do this. When you do, he’ll realize that you’re confident in giving him his freedom, and he’ll want to share more with you. He’ll have more to tell you about, and he’ll be excited to tell you or show you what kind of things he cares about in his free time.
So a simple example is also a very common one. I know that a ton of guys enjoy playing video games and it drives their partners nuts. But little things like these can actually add up and make quite a difference, so the next time your guy wants to play video games when you’d rather spend quality time together, try sitting beside him while he plays or even try your hand at it with him, instead of forcing him to turn it off.
How to make a man fall in love: Avoid nagging
Unfortunately, nagging is another thing that often rears its ugly head in a relationship. Many people do it without realizing it, especially when it comes from a place of love.
You want him to be healthy so you remind him that he probably shouldn’t be eating that bowl of ice-cream at 10pm, you want him to spend more time with you so you comment on how much time he spends going out with the boys instead of with you, you miss him so you send him text after text even when you know he might be busy with something…
Be mindful of this behavior because men recoil from nagging and it can really damage your relationship. So if you want to know how to get a man to fall in love and commit to you, challenge yourself to go out and try a new activity to get your mind off of the relationship for a bit. The busier you are with your own things, the better. This way, you won’t have the time to feel like you might not be getting the attention you want, you’ll be filling your time with something that serves you and makes you happy, and it gives your boyfriend the opportunity to miss you! On top of that, when you’re back in the same place, you’ll have more interesting things to share with each other. This is also true for those of you that have someone special in mind that you’re hoping to be with in the near future – it’s easy to fixate on them, but the busier you are with your own things going on, the less attention you will give him. And yes, it’s true, the less attention you give a guy, the more attractive you become, simply because it makes you seem less attainable.