When it comes to advice about love and relationships, I’ve noticed a common misconception. Very many people think that you only need to seek out love advice when you’re experiencing a problem or some kind of challenge in your relationship.
The truth is that the absolute best thing that you can do in order to make your relationship stronger, is to learn how to prevent problems and challenges from arising, and giving yourself the necessary tools that will help you to navigate through the obstacles that relationships inevitably face.
One of my clients reached out to me asking about how to make her relationship stronger, and I have to tell you that it really warmed my heart.
I work with people every single day who are trying to pick up the pieces from a broken relationship, so when someone reaches out to me with questions about how to preserve and reinforce a bond, it makes me happy to see people are actively thinking about this.
In today’s day and age, we are surrounded by Hollywood culture and Disney movies that represent relationships as fairytales that never encounter any type of challenges. Real life isn’t quite like that, and most of us aren’t taught how to find long-term solutions to the issues that arise.
That is why I wanted to write this article on how to make your relationship stronger. I will go over for things that you can start to implement in your relationship starting today so that you can keep it strong in the future.
Every relationship will encounter highs and lows, but if you can implement these techniques, then you will see that your relationship will become very resilient!
The importance of making your relationship stronger
As I began saying in the introduction to this article, it is unrealistic to think that a relationship will never be faced with problems that need to be overcome. Every relationship is different, so the issues that arise could be big or small, but if you do not have the tools needed to work through them, the relationship will be put in jeopardy.
Think about it this way. Taking care of your relationship by focusing on preventing problems from destroying it is like going to see your physician for your yearly checkup.
It is much easier to prevent a serious problem by preventing it than having to put the pieces back together after everything has fallen apart.
So just like preventing serious health issues by keeping your body healthy, you can keep your relationship healthy by making sure you are laying down a proper foundation.
When it comes to how to make a relationship stronger, there are a couple different things to keep in mind…
How to make your relationship stronger by focusing on what you can control
If you truly want a love to last, the biggest piece of advice I can give you is to never live your life solely for your significant other. So many of us wind up losing track of our personal lives, our hobbies, projects, friends, and goals when a serious relationship starts to developed in our lives.
Though this is a very common phenomenon, you need to be able to stand on your own two feet and ensure that you are able to make yourself happy. The moment you allow your happiness to depend on your significant other, and imbalance begins to form.
An inappropriate amount of pressure is placed on your partners shoulders that should not be their responsibility. In addition to this, it makes you feel like you are not in control of your emotions and it makes it dangerously easy for you to feel anxious and vulnerable. The more anxious and vulnerable you feel, the more you risk becoming needy and clingy, both of which are things that can push a partner away.
So many relationships fall apart because a person neglects themselves and loses themselves in the relationship. I don’t want you to wind up in the same situation, having to pick up the pieces after a breakup.
If you really want to make your relationship strong, you have to cultivate emotional independence.
An easy way to do this is to fill up your schedule with people and activities that bring you joy. Be proactive, and avoid waiting around for your partner. Never forget who you were before you met your significant other, and never forget what your passions and hobbies are, how you want to live and change the world, and what is important to you.
Now, I want to clarify that making a relationship stronger by making yourself happy is not about neglecting your partner! The key to success is always balance. If you’re struggling with finding a sense of independence and you’re experiencing insecurity in your relationship, I encourage you to check out our product. It is specfically designed to help you overcome insecurity in a relationship! It is true that it is hard to find the right balance between not being too needy and not being too distant, but this should be your goal. So it is not about neglecting your partner and falling into the other extreme, it’s about being able to depend on yourself for being happy in your life.
Always remember that it is not your partner’s responsibility to make you happy.
You can build a strong relationship by both being strong individuals. We need to remember that two halves do not make a whole in this situation. You and your significant others should not depend on each other to feel whole and complete. In order for your relationship to be stronger and healthier, you both need to be whole so that you can help each other to become the best versions of yourself.
So if you are wondering, “How to make my relationship stronger,” remember that you need to be independent, but must also recognize when to be there for your partner. When your partner is seeking and is in need of your affection or support, you need to be there for them, and vice versa.
But just like you, they have to be able to take care of their happiness on their own as well.
Both of you should be able to find balance between your love lives, social lives, professional lives, and families. Your love life is not the only “Life” that you have, so make sure that you’re finding a proper balance. This will help you to protect your relationship.
Strong relationships require proper communication
This might not come as a surprise to you as you read this, but communication is one of the most important things in solid relationships. Unfortunately, many of us never learned how to properly communicate, whether it is with our family, our significant others, our colleagues, or just the people we interact with on a daily basis…
Communication is the biggest tool you have to make your relationship stronger. I often see that people wait for things to fall apart before they express their concerns to their significant others, and this makes it harder to fix the problems. Make sure you are able to speak up about the things that you are struggling with, whether it is socially, in terms of intimacy, professionally, or even something having to do with your kids.
Similarly, in order to communicate effectively in a healthy relationship, you need to develop a sense of awareness to help your partner when things aren’t going well for him or her. Make sure that you check in every day about how they’re doing with the challenges they face in their daily life. If you are unaware and unable to read their moods and reactions, and if you aren’t reminding yourself to check in daily and to communicate with the person you love, things will start to fall apart. You will either push them away or begin to live two separate lives under the same roof.
When it comes to how to make a relationship stronger with your partner, bear in mind that the relationship is much like a garden. It needs to be nurtured every single day.
So begin by taking care of yourself, making sure that you feel fulfilled and happy, and making sure that you are not depending on your partner to make you happy, and then focus on ensuring that you are there for your significant other. Watch out for them and communicate with them – not only when things are not going well, but also when everything is fine. Communicate every single day.
If you can push yourself to make a habit out of these actions, your relationship will become stronger over the years. You will see that it is reinforced and it will be able to withstand the tests and challenges that life throws at you. You will be operating as a team and will be able to find solutions together.
Preventing breakups by creating a stronger relationship
In addition to making sure that you take responsibility for your own happiness, take some time to identify what exactly makes you happy, what you need in your life to feel fulfilled, and what elements are important to you.
In the same way, don’t forget to consider what makes your partner happy. What are your significant other’s values? What is their belief system? What makes them feel alive?
The more you know about what makes this person tick, the easier it will be to make them happy. The easier it is to make this person happy, the more fulfilling and strong your relationship will feel.
Strong relationship: Keep an eye out for triggers
A very easy prevention tip that will help make a relationship stronger is to keep your eyes open for the things that get on your partner’s nerves. By being aware, you can avoid doing the things that you know will upset them.
For example, if you know that your boyfriend or girlfriend hates it when you leave the cap off of the tube of toothpaste or when you leave dirty dishes in the sink, don’t do those things! Plain and simple.
Remember that little things can accumulate and lead to problems, but these are easy things to avoid just by being aware. Again, prevention is your biggest ally when it comes to making hey relationship better and stronger.
Common projects to make relationships stronger
If you have a common goal with the person you love, it will help to bind the relationship and solidify your bond. Think about having short-term and long-term goals together, keeping in mind that short-term goals can pave the foundation for long-term goals, like creating a house and a family.
A simple way to strengthen your relationship with short-term goals is to plan a party together. You can plan and coordinate something together that is going to be fun, and this will help you grow. You could also plan a vacation together, or do some charity work together. It is especially powerful if you feel that you are making a difference and are bringing happiness to other people’s lives.
Knowing when to talk about unpleasant things in order to maintain a successful relationship
As I said above, good communication is key for happy and healthy relationships that have good emotional support, love, and intimacy.
One of the most common relationship tips that we give people who are building relationships that withstand the test of time is that it is very important to identify the right time to talk about something that is bothering you. It is very easy to lose patience when something has been bugging you when it’s happening again. We tends to choose that moment to have a serious conversation about the things that are making us unhappy in our relationship.
The thing is, when you are in the middle of a disagreement and you are about to lose it, it isn’t really the best moment to talk about the issues at hand in a productive way. It’s important to feel that you respect each other and when you feel like you are being faced with the thing that makes you upset yet again, you are going to be less patient, less understanding, and more concerned with venting and getting your point across.
The key to avoiding resentment and creating a happy long-term relationship is to wait for a better time to discuss the issue. It should never be swept under the rug, but you will both have more relationship satisfaction if you start to focus more on positive reinforcement.
For example, let’s say that your partner is always late to everything and it drives you completely nuts. Instead of fighting about it the next time it happens, wait for the next time that they are NOT late and tell them how happy it made you. The more positive a reaction they get from you, the more they will want to re-create the behavior in the future because they’ll feel like they will be rewarded.
If you express your needs as demands, then you just become another chore. Dating should be fun for couples, whether it’s a new relationship or an old one. When your partner has to censor who they are, the relationship is in jeopardy. You don’t want there to be contempt or for your happiness to feel like a never ending chore to your significant other.
Romantic love can be preserved when you operate as a team
It is true that the honeymoon period at the start of a relationship will change, and your relationship will be tested, but you have chosen each other. Remind yourselves of that when things get tough.
There can be big problems like infidelity, but there can be other elements like jealousy resentment that can erode the relationship.
Just make sure that you are doing everything in your power to make sure that your life feels happy, and work on finding the balance between being there for your partner without being needy or clingy.
There are so many ways that you can build a good relationship, and if you still feel like you need a helping hand please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or member of my team. Join the Happily Committed Project and transform your relationship in a meaningful way. You can also leave any questions you may have about how to reinforce and protect this relationship in the comments section below and it would be our pleasure to personally respond to you.
I wish you all the best in life and love,
Your coach when you want to know how to make your relationship strong,