The good news is that you have already gone out of your way to figure out what the problem is and how you can fix this situation. The worst thing you could do would be to simply let this go and hope that it will fix itself.
Discontent in a relationship doesn’t normally just fix itself, so it’ll be important for you to pinpoint what exactly is making you feel dissatisfied with this relationship and what kind of concrete, longterm solutions you can provide.
I also want you to keep in mind that this isn’t something that is fixed overnight. If you’re feeling the seven year itch, then you’ve been together for a long time and things have been coming apart for quite some time. But don’t let that scare you! You are already on the path towards success because you have gone out of your way to find information and tools that will help you to get your relationship with your spouse or significant other back on track!
Taking accountability when you’re dealing with the itch
Honesty with yourself is going to be a key player right now. A relationship is a two way road and if you and your partner haven’t been working on maintaining the romance, you both played a role in the current state of things.
So I encourage you to ask yourself what you could start doing differently from here on out to make your partner feel more desired and to introduce more romance back into the relationship.
Be very open with yourself and explore your answer to: Is the relationship really the issue or are you dissatisfied with other elements of your life?
Sometimes an easy fix is to work on bringing more joy and fulfillment into your life via your personal and professional goals. In some cases, people let their happiness depend on their partners and relationships too much, without realizing that their happiness is their own responsibility.
So if you feel that maybe you are making your happiness your partner’s responsibility when in reality it should only be your own, I invite you to start spending more time doing things that make you genuinely happy! This is a great way to fight the seven year itch AND make your personal life feel more gratifying.
Focusing on the good when you’re struggling with the seven years itch
Now that we’ve explored the 7 year itch meaning a bit more, you understand why it’s so important to focus on the positives in the relationship. When you start to feel bored or dissatisfied, it becomes all too easy to nitpick and focus on the little things your partner does that bug you.
But if you’re able to change your approach and really look at all the things that you love about your partner, it will be easier to create a more positive dynamic in the relationship. Building each other up, going out of your way to do nice things for each other, and making each other feel loved can help you restore the bond.
Love has different seasons
Another thing I remind my clients of is that love changes and evolves over the years. So if you’ve been together for seven years, you can’t expect the relationship to be the same as it was at the very beginning.
There are always going to be highs and lows, and the fiery, passionate love that you knew at the beginning of the relationship will eventually turn into a more mature love. But that doesn’t mean that it has to stop being exciting! It’s just up to you to work on figuring out a way to bring in some new forms of romance.
Relationships need to be renewed, and that in and of itself could actually be very exciting. If you look at this as an opportunity to experience something new and exciting, then you can revamp the relationship. So why not celebrate your seventh year anniversary by doing something entirely new. Organize a surprise for your significant other that you know he or she would love.