When two people are together for a while, it’s not uncommon for the excitement to fade away. You might start to feel like your boyfriend doesn’t miss you when you’re not around, and you might even feel like he’s bored when you are together. This is not a very reassuring feeling, so what can you do about it? And what if you’ve already broken up?
I wanted to write an article on how to make your boyfriend miss you today because it is one of the most common themes in my one-on-one coaching sessions with people.
Whether you have broken up or not, the fact that your boyfriend does not crave your presence is going to have to be fixed. In order to restore or reinforce a fulfilling relationship, your boyfriend needs to be inspired when he looks at you. We want him to crave having you around.
I’m going to go over the easiest things you can do starting today to make someone miss you. These are going to be elements that will benefit you for the rest of your life, so I encourage you to jot these things down while you’re reading this article. My goal is to help you find long-lasting happiness in your love life, so let’s get started, shall we?
How to make your boyfriend miss you: Identifying what’s missing
As I began saying above, the longer two people are together the easier it becomes for things to start feeling a little lackluster. We are raised in a society where we are constantly exposed to Hollywood culture and Disney movies that make us think that relationships are fairytale fantasies that do not require maintenance.
Without realizing it, many people just assume that things are going to be sunshine and rainbows for the rest of their lives, without realizing that relationships require upkeep. Things are not automatically going to feel fresh forever.
Fortunately, that doesn’t mean that you can’t do things to create positive change in the situation. There are all kinds of things that you can start focusing on and changing in your day-to-day life that will make your boyfriend miss you again.
When you want to know how to make your boyfriend miss you and fall in love with you even more, the very first thing to think about is what attracted him to you in the first place. This isn’t about sentimental value; we need to identify what is missing from your relationship now that was there in the beginning!
What kind of things were you doing together that you both loved? Think back on your first dates. Were you setting aside time for sharing new activities and experiences more than you are now?
I bring this up because it is dangerously easy to fall into a routine once you have been dating for a long time, and men love freshness in their relationships. The honeymoon stage will naturally fade away, but you just need to incorporate new emotions.
So what are your common interests? What kind of things do the two of you share? Did you stop making time for these things?
It is also very helpful to think about what exactly thrilled your boyfriend about you. Is it your humor? Your patient disposition? Your interest in hiking?
The fact that you are passionate about dance? What made you stand out from the crowd in his eyes? Every man wants to feel like his partner is entirely unique, so think about what makes you special to him and showcase this quality.
By knowing what he loves about you, you can identify what will make him miss you, call you, and want you around more. Think about your qualities and what makes you special. If we fall into a routine, it sometimes becomes very easy to stop showcasing our best qualities…
How the make him miss you: The key to success
When you’re thinking “Does he miss me, it’s often because you are starting to feel a disconnect. You’re starting to feel like there is distance that is forming between you, that he’s fine without you, and it doesn’t seem like he craves your presence. So how do you change this?
Is there even a remedy that will help you create a new relationship with him and reignite that feeling of longing for you in him?
I’ve got good news for you… there is!
The key to making a man miss you so much is deliberately putting some space between you so that he can finally realize what not having you around really feels like. A lot of people make the mistake of not giving their significant others the opportunity to miss them, and wonder why they don’t.
Sure, I understand that it might seem scary. You might be worried that you will lose your boyfriend if you put space between you, but time and space are two of the most powerful and successful tools in your toolbox. Don’t be afraid to use them!
More often than not, the key to success is taking a step back so that you can make a stronger comeback. We need to establish a new dynamic between you and your true love that feels fresh and exciting.
So now that you are missing someone and want him to feel the same way about you (whether you are in a long term relationship or not), let’s take a look at some of the best techniques available to you!
I miss my boyfriend and I want him to feel the same: Focus on self confidence
When you start to feel insecure in a relationship, it is not uncommon for people to start feeling insecure about themselves. This is a very dangerous thing because it can spark a downward spiral. You need more reassurance from your boyfriend, so you become needy and clingy, and he starts to feel suffocated and pushes you further away… many of you reading this right now might already be in this type of situation, but don’t panic. If you can build your self-esteem and confidence, then you will spark his attention and rebuild the attraction between you. It will be easy to pinpoint the right things to say, overcome your insecurities, and make him love you more than ever before! I know you are thinking, “ I miss you so much,” but don’t let these emotions make you acting a way that you end up regretting.
Keep in mind that people are attracted to people who are attracted to themselves. In other words, people are into people who are into their own lives, and feel happy and satisfied by them. So begin investing in yourself and you will see that others will invest in you, too.
How to make your boyfriend miss you like crazy: Creating a rich personal life
In many cases, people lose track of themselves as the relationship takes center stage of their lives. This means that they lose track of their passions and hobbies, their friends and family, their personal and professional goals, and so on and so forth.
It’s a common mistake but it can lead to problems in the relationship. Suddenly there is an imbalance and the exciting feeling that existed in the beginning of the relationship begins to disappear. Many people don’t realize that a person’s independence is one of their most attractive qualities.
So I encourage you to live with purpose, and don’t allow your happiness or your feelings of fulfillment to depend on your boyfriend. You need to make sure that you are able to find happiness in your life without him – especially because if you allow your happiness to depend on your partner, it puts an inappropriate amount of pressure on their shoulders for something that should not be their responsibility. The result of this is that it can pull you apart and make him crave space and time away from you.
So even if you are in a serious relationship, make sure you have an active social life, make sure you spend ample time with friends and family members that make you happy, go out and explore new restaurants, venues, galleries, and bars in your town, and carve out time for your passions and hobbies. Think about all the things that got placed on the back burner as this relationship started to develop, and if you start to fill your schedule with things that bring you joy, he will be reminded of the person he felt for and he will miss you too. The best love advice always boils down to inspiring your partner. You want him to look at you and think, “Wow, there is so much joy that surrounds her – I want to be part of that!”
To make your man miss you and fall for you all over again, make sure that you feel confident. Be desirable, irresistible, and avoid negativity. If you feel that your self-confidence could use a boost, don’t hesitate to get active at the gym or give yourself a makeover that makes you feel like the new and improved version of yourself! It is important that you feel sexy and attractive. You can even set aside an afternoon to get yourself some new lingerie and surprise him!
Confidence and well-being are extremely attractive, and they are traits that attract people like moths to a flame. Your boyfriend will be most susceptible to this because he has access to you on a daily basis. In other words, your boyfriend has first row seats to the type of life that you are living, so make it count!
The importance of space when you want a guy to miss you
As I said above, time apart is important. A person cannot miss you if they are not given the opportunity to miss you. I know you want him to call you and tell you he wants to see you right now, but this is why it is so important to give him space and to not be too available.
Even when a man is in a relationship, he really does still value freedom and independence, so make sure that you show him that you can be independent as well (even if you live together). The busier you are with things that are making you happy, the more inclined he will be to want to be a part of those things. If you drop everything for him all the time, then it looks like your life revolves around him and unfortunately, that is not an attractive characteristic and it damages the seduction process.
Human beings have a terrible tendency of taking things for granted that are readily available to them, so I encourage you to focus on making your own life better and don’t be too predictable! This is one of the best ways to protect yourself from winding up with a broken heart.
When it comes to how to make your boyfriend miss you more, you need to make sure that you aren’t always around and that you aren’t at his beck and call all the time. Just remember that you need to give him the opportunity to miss you.
And while you are doing this, pay attention to the way that you interact with him…
Body language and attitude when you want to make a man miss you
While it is important to ensure that you are not too available or begging for his attention, it is important to be respectful and present when he is seeking. It is a delicate balance between not being too available and being there for him when he needs to you. Please don’t hesitate to get in touch with us for some one-on-one guidance if you feel that you could use a helping hand.
Try to be sweet with your boyfriend and avoid drama, avoid neediness, and make sure that when you do spend time together, the moments are special. We want to make sure that intimacy and positivity are maintained between you, and we want him to associate you with enjoyable moments.
So pay attention to your body language. Nonverbal messages can actually convey a lot more than we realize… if you are always talking to him with your arms folded, staring at the floor, and making him understand that he’s making you very unhappy, he is not going to respond positively. So think about eye contact, smiling, and subtle things that help two people feel connected, like subtly mirroring him.
When you want to make your boyfriend (or even your ex-boyfriend) miss you and start thinking of you more, make sure you develop your ability to relate and empathize. Make sure that you create a safe space for him to communicate.
Some easy ways to do this are to avoid saying hurtful things when you argue and make sure that you build him up and are there for him. It’s dangerously easy to adopt a negative approach when you are feeling insecure or frustrated in the relationship.
Making your boyfriend miss you and want to be around you is all about self confidence
Though his recent behavior might be enough to make you feel like you’re on rocky ground, the key to making him miss you is giving him the space to realize how much you actually bring to the table. By ensuring that he is not placed on a pedestal, that you are able to invite positive change into your life, and that you are able to fill your schedule with people and activities that bring you joy, he will begin to see you as an exciting challenge once again.
As I said above, we are here to help. As a team of dedicated love and relationship coaches, we can work on reaching your goal by providing you with a clear-cut action plan that has been tailor-made to fit your relationship, your situation, and your specific needs.
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Wishing you the absolute best in life and love
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