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Unhappy relationship signs: What are they and how do you fix them?

You’ve been getting the unsettling feeling that your partner isn’t happy being with you, and it’s starting to make you feel concerned about the durability of your relationship. Is there a way to know for sure if he or she is thinking about leaving or is generally unhappy being with you? What are the biggest unhappy relationship signs and is there anything you can do to make things right again?

The good news is that there are absolutely concrete signs to keep an eye out for and yes, there are definitely solutions available to you! Welcome to Happily Committed, where our goal is to teach you how to transform your relationship in a meaningful and dignified way. We work with individuals on a daily basis who want to find long term solutions to the problems that they’re experiencing in their relationships, whether it’s in our one on one coaching sessions, through our videos on our YouTube channel, or through the articles, you can find on our blog like this one.

In today’s article, I am going to be going over the biggest signs of an unhappy relationship, but I’ll also be going over the solutions that are available to you. I know that it is not easy to navigate, but the faster you’re able to analyze the situation, the faster you’re going to be able to change it! So let’s take a look.

Identifying the signs that your partner is unhappy in a relationship

This is one of the most common topics that come up in our sessions with our clients. So many people find themselves in this situation and end up feeling like they don’t know how to make their partner happy and fulfilled again.

The result is that they often try to overcompensate but wind up making their partner feel pressured and suffocated. When this happens, their partner just ends up pulling away even more and things get worse.

So first things first, we need to determine whether you’re seeing unhappy relationship signs or if your partner is just dealing with something unpleasant in his or her personal life, or if your relationship is just experiencing a little slump. Keep in mind that it is perfectly normal for relationships to experience highs and lows, and things aren’t going to be sunshine and rainbows every second of every day.

Healthy relationships require maintenance and communication, and they most certainly will require problem-solving skills. If you’re interested in learning more about couples strengthening exercises, I highly recommend reading this article. It will help you to incorporate tools that will ensure that both of you become happier, feel heard and understood, and they will strengthen the bond between you.

This reminds me of my client Ramona. She was quite a successful insurance agent living in Florida, and she reached out to me when she and her husband Anthony were on the verge of separating. Anthony was overwhelmed with his job, he was not where he wanted to be in his life and he was blaming her for things that were not her fault. She was picking up on so many unhappy relationship signs and she was terrified that she was about to lose her husband forever.

He was unhappy with his life and felt that the relationship had become too much of a burden. He was beginning to express that he needed space to focus on “finding himself again” because he had become so lost.

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Happy relationship: The signs you’re NOT in one right now

There are two huge indicators to keep an eye out for if you’re on the lookout for unhappy relationship signs. The first one is when you sense of surge of neediness or clinginess in your significant other…

In a relationship with someone who isn’t happy: Clinginess

Have you noticed that your partner suddenly pines for your attention all the time, has started to feel very insecure and is in constant need of reassurance, or that he or she is generally unhappy when you’re not giving them your attention? If you’ve picked up on this recently, it could be that your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse is feeling unhappy in the relationship and is clinging to you in an effort to find some sense of reassurance.

Perhaps they don’t feel heard, understood, or cherished in the relationship so they’re desperate for your attention. They’re worried about the stability of your relationship.

I want to say right off the bat that if you’re sensing this, it means that there is a problem, but that’s the first step in finding a solution. So it’s not ideal, but at least you’re not wading around in the dark, wondering if there is anything you should be doing differently. The solution now is to try to empathize with the one you love and try to see what could be going on? Why might they be feeling like this? What reason might he or she have to think, “Is my relationship over?

The more empathetic you can be, the more you’re setting yourself up for success in this relationship later on down the road. Being able to anticipate your partner’s needs and understand why they might be feeling unhappy or insecure in this relationship can shine a bright light on what kind of behaviors and actions you can change that would make them feel better.

Our relationship is unhappy: Distance

The other sign of an unhappy partner is the exact opposite: distance.

If your significant other has suddenly put a lot of space between you and you’re sensing a sizable disconnect, it could mean that they feel neglected.

The person you love might start to feel detached because they get the impression that you either stopped caring, stopped listening to them, or stopped making an effort to make them happy. When this happens, people often pull away. This is something to be very careful with because if your partner is not getting a sense of wellbeing from this relationship with you, they will be able to find it somewhere else, with someone else.

Like I always say, relationships require maintenance and though things might have felt effortless at the very beginning, this does not mean that neither of you has to invest your time and energy into making the other feel loved and cherished.

If this is what you’ve noticed in your relationship and you see that your partner is starting to become rather disinterested in you, what you feel and what you’ve been doing, then it’s time to approach the situation with this in mind. Be prepared to reopen the dialogue, go out of your way to do things that would make your partner feel special in your eyes, and work on reconnecting with him or her.

If your partner is unhappy, chances are that you’re also thinking, “I’m not happy.” So think about bringing back the element of surprise, make time for date night so that you can spend quality time together. You want to make sure that things feel fresh and new!

We need to find ways to nip these issues in the bud before it’s too late and the person you love starts to think about when to leave a relationship and seek happiness elsewhere.

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Being unhappy or feeling alone in a relationship

I want to express that I don’t want to spook you by writing this article. I want to offer you clear pointers on how to tell if your relationship has become unhappy so that you can make the necessary changes that will improve the situation and save your relationship.

There are a few more unhappy relationships signs that I want to go over with you so that you can get a better idea of what’s going on. You’re not alone in this and you can always reach out to me or a member of my team for one on one guidance. All you have to do is click here and you can put your relationship back on track and ensure your future happiness together.

So lets continue and look at a few more clues that something isn’t right or that your partner is altogether unhappy.

Signs of a bad relationship: No desire to be together

One of the biggest signs of unhappy relationships that I’ve seen is when both partners have lost the desire to spend time together. They’re not interested in sharing moments, and when they do spend time together, there’s no new conversation. Everything feels exactly the same. The routine has taken over and the entire relationship feels so monotonous and predictable that the two partners could think of a million other things that they’d rather do than spend one on one time with their significant other.

If this is the case in your relationship, you’re looking at a pretty big sign that neither of you are feeling fulfilled right now.

Again, there are solutions available, but you need to keep your eyes open and make sure that you’re being very honest with yourself about the situation. The worst thing you could do when your relationship has turned sour, is to turn a blind eye and convince yourself that everything is fine.

Non-action is not an option if you want to save this relationship.

Unhappy sex life

The intimacy in your relationship is also something to pay close attention to. If it has completely fizzled out and if neither of you feel any desire to be intimate, there is an issue.

It’s true that a couple’s sex life will decrease over time, but if it’s completely nonexistent, it is highly likely that one or both of you are unhappy with the relationship.

Now is the time to really make an effort to innovate and reignite the flame. For more ideas on romantic things to do or how to make your partner want you, I encourage you to click these links.

Signs you’re unhappy in a relationship: Letting yourselves go

If one or both of you has completely abandoned their physical health, their fitness, their personal hygiene and how they present themselves, it can mean that they’ve stopped prioritizing this relationship and the attraction that goes hand in hand with it.

When you’re happy in a relationship, you feel good and you make an effort to put your best foot forward. If you’re unhappy in a relationship, you’re more likely to do the exact opposite.

So I encourage you to pay attention to these details in your partner but also in yourself when you’re looking for signs that a person is unhappy in a relationship.

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Signs you’re unhappy in a relationship: Letting yourselves go

If one or both of you has completely abandoned their physical health, their fitness, their personal hygiene and how they present themselves, it can mean that they’ve stopped prioritizing this relationship and the attraction that goes hand in hand with it.

When you’re happy in a relationship, you feel good and you make an effort to put your best foot forward. If you’re unhappy in a relationship, you’re more likely to do the exact opposite.

So I encourage you to pay attention to these details in your partner but also in yourself when you’re looking for signs that a person is unhappy in a relationship.

Even if you’re unhappy in this relationship, you can fix it!

Like I said above, if you’re feeling like you or the person you love are not getting what they need out of this relationship, it doesn’t mean that you’re inevitably going to have to break up. Just keep your eyes open and focus on being solution oriented.

To summarize, keep an eye out for these indicators:

An increased level of clinginess

More distance between you than ever

Little to no motivation to do new and exciting things

Your sex life disappears

One of both of you stops making an effort to present yourselves well

If you can make the effort to use this period as a catalyst for making important changes in your relationship, I can guarantee you that not only will you be able to bounce back, you’ll be able to make your relationship stronger than ever before. I know it’s very challenging, but if you would like to learn more about how to restore your sense of self confidence, I encourage you to click here. We’ve just designed a new product to help you overcome insecurity in your relationship once and for all.

Sometimes we need to experience a little shock like this to point us in the right direction with our partners.

I sincerely wish you all the best,

Your coach when you’re looking for unhappy relationship signs

Adrian