Happy relationship: The signs you’re NOT in one right now
There are two huge indicators to keep an eye out for if you’re on the lookout for unhappy relationship signs. The first one is when you sense of surge of neediness or clinginess in your significant other…
In a relationship with someone who isn’t happy: Clinginess
Have you noticed that your partner suddenly pines for your attention all the time, has started to feel very insecure and is in constant need of reassurance, or that he or she is generally unhappy when you’re not giving them your attention? If you’ve picked up on this recently, it could be that your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse is feeling unhappy in the relationship and is clinging to you in an effort to find some sense of reassurance.
Perhaps they don’t feel heard, understood, or cherished in the relationship so they’re desperate for your attention. They’re worried about the stability of your relationship.
I want to say right off the bat that if you’re sensing this, it means that there is a problem, but that’s the first step in finding a solution. So it’s not ideal, but at least you’re not wading around in the dark, wondering if there is anything you should be doing differently. The solution now is to try to empathize with the one you love and try to see what could be going on? Why might they be feeling like this? What reason might he or she have to think, “Is my relationship over?”
The more empathetic you can be, the more you’re setting yourself up for success in this relationship later on down the road. Being able to anticipate your partner’s needs and understand why they might be feeling unhappy or insecure in this relationship can shine a bright light on what kind of behaviors and actions you can change that would make them feel better.
Our relationship is unhappy: Distance
The other sign of an unhappy partner is the exact opposite: distance.
If your significant other has suddenly put a lot of space between you and you’re sensing a sizable disconnect, it could mean that they feel neglected.
The person you love might start to feel detached because they get the impression that you either stopped caring, stopped listening to them, or stopped making an effort to make them happy. When this happens, people often pull away. This is something to be very careful with because if your partner is not getting a sense of wellbeing from this relationship with you, they will be able to find it somewhere else, with someone else.
Like I always say, relationships require maintenance and though things might have felt effortless at the very beginning, this does not mean that neither of you has to invest your time and energy into making the other feel loved and cherished.
If this is what you’ve noticed in your relationship and you see that your partner is starting to become rather disinterested in you, what you feel and what you’ve been doing, then it’s time to approach the situation with this in mind. Be prepared to reopen the dialogue, go out of your way to do things that would make your partner feel special in your eyes, and work on reconnecting with him or her.
If your partner is unhappy, chances are that you’re also thinking, “I’m not happy.” So think about bringing back the element of surprise, make time for date night so that you can spend quality time together. You want to make sure that things feel fresh and new!
We need to find ways to nip these issues in the bud before it’s too late and the person you love starts to think about when to leave a relationship and seek happiness elsewhere.